Bemused,
I’m sorry that the mussar you were given did not have the positive effect intended. But continual letzanus is not an appropriate response and I truly believe you are better than that.
There isn’t any reason you or any poster needs to identify their age or gender as it is better left unstated. And unless someone is blogging on yw day and night, the likelihood is they will not know most others biographical data.
Again, I say this with the utmost respect and hope that you can do better in the future. Everyone makes mistakes and no one is holding a grudge against you.