brook,
“very often it’s the people with a head on their shoulders who date more till they get married. again, not always!”
That is such a silly and naive comment. If H-m sends the right one on the first try it is a bracha and if you have a “head on your shoulders” you don’t say no because the only chisaron you can find is that they are the first one. Why would any guy agree to be a girl’s first date if they know the answer is no from the first seconnd. That comment really makes no sense. I wish you a lot of Hatzlocha but keep in mind that you will be held accountable for all those boys that you are wasting their time and hurting in the process of needing to date a lot of boys before you can say yes.
bored@work
I don’t think one or two years is so bad but I just want to make you aware that living here is a whole different ball game than sem. I’m thinking of 3 people who went home after a relatively short stay and they were all here for sem. Don’t get me wrong, I am here so obviously I made the decision to come. But also your husband will also have to want to come here. NOt all boys want to. Also, I am not saying that you WON’T like it or whatever, but you seem to think that things that you take for granted now you will suddenly not need in a year from now but it doesn’t happen like that.