quote “hey curious, i’ve never heard of the shoes question before! but i don’t get it- which one is supposed to be frummer/better- lace up or slip on?”
Seriously speaking, that is the best part of the question, When speaking with references one should try to ask questions in a fashion in which the one being asked does not know what answer the questioner is seeking.
When I was doing research for a bochur who wanted to learn, but likes taking time out to do chessed, I was asked to make sure the girl would not think the guy is not serious in his learning were he to take a seder off to check the local eruv. Rather than asking if she would be okay were he to do chessed at times (obviously a leading question) I asked if there were a situation where a chesed arose which could be done by someone else would she prefer her husband be in the yeshiva learning or go do the chessed. Two people ducked the question then asked me what the proper answer is. My response “THE PROPER ANSWER IS WHATEVER THE GIRL WOULD HONESTLY WANT!!”
Nevertheless, the shoes question is one of the most ridiculous ones out there.
Maybe we should inquire about all her shoes 😉