the “crisis” here is that everyone has such diversified opinions and thinks theirs is the ONLY way to go
That sounds about right. There are different strokes for different folks, and what works for your life, might not work for someone else’s. The idea is that we need to understand that there are many different drachim, and they all can lead to a frum, happy, fulfilling Torah life. I like chocolate ice cream, you like vanilla. So what – BOTH are delicious.