Oh, and about boys being more likely to have a mentor: R’ Avraham Birnbaum talked about his in a Yated article a month or so ago. The yeshiva pattern of boys these days – yeshiva x in the US after high school, yeshiva y in E”Y, then Lakewood is NOT so conducive to boys developing an ONGOING relationship with a rebbe or mentor.
OTOH, I see my daughters (not up to the boys yet) have a very strong kesher to some high school and sem teachers. And they respect my judgment more than I ever thought they would, too 😉