Teenager, I feel for you and I feel for all the kids in this situation. I was recently there and so I know exactly what you are referring to. My suggestion to you is to find yourself a “big sister” or mentor who can help you, guide you, and most important hang out with you.
Starting a kosher hang out is alot of work and, as previous posters stated, many frum communities wont go for it. However, finding a mentor will help you in the short term and maybe you guys can bring oyur idea to fruition. In general, If you have a mentor it might be easier to do the right thing because you know that there is someone who cares about you and believes in you.
When I was growing up my older sister was my mentor- she had gone thru alot and therefore was able to help me. So one summer, when I was 18 and hanging out in the mountains for the summer (lifeguard) I made friends with a whole bunch of guys. When my sister came to visit fo rShabbos I wanted to show her my friends because I knew she wouldnt be judgemental. When we went out to bowling moztai Shabbos ( at 2 in the a.m.)I was busy getting to know some guy when another guy came over to my sister and told her how amazing she is for what she’s doing and how he wishes he would have had someone like that for him when he was in highschool! p.s.- I never spoke to the guy after that and my girlfriends were so impressed and turned on to Judiasm that my kollel wife sister was so cool and non-judgemental and willing to party.
Another mentor that I had brught over some books for me to read when I was under house arrest (by my parents) and suspended from school. She also hung out with me when I needed some support and some good, clean fun.
Without my mentors I dont know where I’d be today- there were so many people that helped me alog those crazy years and I guess this is a good time to say thank you to all those out there who care about Hashems lost and hurt children.
I’m sorry for rambling but I hope this letter can help someone out there. Also does anyone know if there are any mentoring programs in Lakewood – I would like to be a mentor and attempt to give back at least some of what I got.