Joseph:
There is also the Mitzva of “Lo theu Beriah lasheves Yitzra”, which transends Peru U’rivu and in some cases is even more Chamur.
I once heard a story from a Rebbe of mine on how parents of baalei teshuva do not understand how they can have so many children. The daughter promptly lined up all of her many children and asked the non-frum mother which one she thinks should not have been born!
Just try to see both sides of the coin. Lkol Zman Ves Lkol Chefetz Tachas HaShamoim,
especially in light of the gedolim saying it is muttar in some cases.
I direct this at you, since the others who “argue” have applied to themselves the statement of Rebbi Yehudah in Gemorah Keddushin 52b, Tannu Rabanan, third wide line.