tzippi, the different options you gave of lifes are pretty structured, what about something in between, you sound mocking that any couple in kollel for five years is being supported, what about those who dont take support and actually work, and about the couples that stay in kollel for a year or two and live as they did singles getting everything they wish for? and no seminaries dont brain wash to kollel kollel kollel, I think I had maybe 3 classes on it the whole year, but they do show us chashivus hatorah, and I just see what true emes is and go after it. From my wish not their pushing it onto me.
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