When I was in sem in Eretz Yisroel, from after Pesach untill we went home after Shavuos, all the teacher’s lessons had something to do about kollel how great it is and how it is the only way blah blah blah. We also had to write a 12 page report about kollel and the benifits of learning. There are many. This is what girls are hearing. But guess what? NOT EVERY GIRL IS CUT OUT TO BE A KOLLEL WIFE!! is that apikorsus. Maybe to some. But there are girls out there who get brainwashed to think that if their husbands don’t learn, they are not worth too much. This is totaly wrong!! They are also scared to go against the system. Not everyone can do it. Also not every boy can do it but they are too scared that they won’t get a shidduch if they don’t learn so they waste their days and in law’s money by being bentch warmers.
the next point is that not all Zevulans are real Zevulans. A Zevulan is someone who wishes he can learn and wishes his children can be in kollel not someone who looks down upon those in Kollel as boys who are too lazy to work.
Anyway the whole system is messed up.