The height issue is a thron in my side. My daughter is 5’2″, has unbelievable middos, is slim, pretty, intelligent (was graduated with top honors). She has been set up with several very short guys (“because YOU are very short, so the boy’s height shouldn’t bother you, right?”) And I am here to say that is DOES bother her. She never turned her previous shidduchim down, but after going out with five or six really nice people, but who were around 5’5″ or 5’6″ she sees that she is physically uncomfortable going out with men shorter than 5’8″ (which is also not so tall, but is more comfortable for her, especially when she wears high heels). She went out with two of them more than twice to really give them a chance, but at the end of the day she came to see it really is not shayach to her. She is simply not attracted to people who are at about eye level with her. So when a shadchan says she is too picky and will never get married because she has a particular inyan that bothers her, that grinds my gears.
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