brooklyn i understand exactly what you are saying
try then to find others that are in tzar and TRY to pour your heart out for their sake
its not easy, thats why its called “Avodah”. you have to work on it, you have to practice, you have to keep trying
if you want to decrease the tzar in your life the way to do it is to daven when you have no tzar. ie please keep me healthy, please keep supporting me in such a generous way as you have been till now, please help ploni who needs your Yeshuah.