I have been at chasunah’s where there were many people and were there were few people there. The simcha of the chasan and kallah were not dependent on the amount of people always (sometimes they were flustered when picking who to dance with first) but on how close the people were and the fact they participated (dancing ect). It was heartwarming at a sibling’s chasunah where my friends showed up (were not invited for the meal) just to say mazel tov and see the chuppah. they didnt expect to eat or be compensated (it was a bit far). They only wanted to be there for the baalei simchos. What is your perspective on coming? to make them happy or to have fun? to make them happy- get a part-time job to help pay for transportation costs. Maybe cut back on the amount you spend on eating out! I was in Eretz Yisrael and there were plenty of bochurim eating out in restaurants, pizza shops, bagel places ect. And they werent the cheapest places! Save your money if you think that your presence will enhance the simcha~
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