joseph:
I forgot to comment on the last paragraph.
Perhaps you’re right that we basically are not disagreeing in essense. However, even if you feel that the oilam on this site is maliciously violating tznius, or blissfully unaware, how do you think your comments will help them?
It is my opinion btw, that people in general do not consider themselves bad, or malicious. Just misunderstood. If you approach them with that thought in mind, it might be easier to effect a meeting of the minds, which again, will enable you to be more effective in getting a message across. The key word here is effectiveness.