BEIN HASDORIM,
If I can find exactly where it is, I’ll post it for you.
Secondly, when I was planning my daughter’s chasuna, I had the Novominsker Rebbe in my car and discussed the inyan. I mentioned to him this Pela Yoetz also.
He strongly encouraged me to make the wedding within the ‘takana guidelines’, and I will be ‘M’KADESH SHEM SHAMAYIM B’RABIM’.
To which I rep[lied, “Maskim, but it wont be ‘B’rabim!”.