mdlevine:maybe im nuts, but in your first post, you sort of start of claiming both sides are correct, yet dont give the 2 true sides of the argument. the argument is how much covering is needed to be tznius, and what colors are or are not acceptable.
your statement, while correct, is whether the onus of tznius is on women to not dress a certain way, or for men to not look. as jews we believe both, that is why we dont do like our muslim cousins and make our wives wear burqas (except hose few nut balls in bet shemesh).
the truth is that in any argument in halacha, as long as both sides are leshem shomayim, and have what to stand on, both are divrei elokim chayim!
(intelligent, on more thing, your inferring the meat eating to tznius doesnt make much sense. one is a feeling he has, the other would be a commandment he is trying to know the source of. no similarity at all)