SJSinNYC – I completely agree with you. Just remember, most of the members here have NO experience with any of this.
Until they have a sibling, child, or cousin, marry a non Jew, or if they were the one’s converting into Judaism, they have no clue as to how they will react in such a situation. Most gerim I know DO have a relationship with their family, and most people with family members who marry non Jewish, DO have a relationship with them. Anyone who has not been there, is speaking out of ignorance.
Ignore their insolent, unknowledgeable, inexperienced, immature comments. They only want to get a rise out of you, don’t give them the satisfaction. They are children, who just don’t know any better.
The world is not in BLACK & WHITE, if it were, they would not not be online, now would they?