Re R’ Joseph (sorry but without numbered comments I’ve got to use your name) if I were convinced that Azi were an Avrohom Avinu (sorry Azi; and BTW, I’m old enough to be your mother so I’ll call you by name) that might be a different story. As I’m not I would suggest he discuss this with his rebbe, maybe first write out all his thoughts, concerns.
For example, on one side he can have his worries for himself (shidduchim, what people will think), OTOH he can have his concerns for what obligations if any he has, maybe a column to write down his thoughts on perspective (like on a 1- 10 scale where does this fall, compared with lashon hara, bittul zeman, etc.)