One last comment, and with this I will end,
to Sarah:
My point is l’Shaim Shamaim. and I believe we can all learn a lesson from this posting. Too many people make assertions about MO,chareidim,chassidim etc based upon a limited amount of information or based upon personal experience.
People on this blog ( not Sarah ) are willing to be Dam L’kaf Zchus on accused child molesters; shouldn’t the same be extended to a poster who sounds sincere in his anguish in describing the emotional pain inflicted upon his wife?
This has nothing to do with chumras. It’s about accepting that this person’s experiences might be different than mine and that you’ve been zocheh not to have encountered this.
All the best