lounge in queens

I was about to suggest a good futon

The boys that i know that live their you dont want to be around so dont go there.

(It sounded like she was assuming BigGolem to be

a girl and telling “her” not to go to Queens.)

By the way, what games did you have in mind?

Dont go to Queens lounge to hang out with guys.

Comlink – even though your points are valid, the maaleh of games is that it gives you something fun to do so the date isn’t too boring.

I agree with you that it can be a problem of not allowing for personal interaction, and I do remember having this problem once (and I’ve only played games on dates 2x that I can remember). I remember feeling like there was no point to the date at all.

There are two ways to avoid that problem:

1. Only play games for a short time at the beginning of the date as a warm-up. Alternatively, in the middle of the date, if no one has anything to say or it’s just getting boring, you can pull out the games just for a short time. The second time I played a game on a date, he did it this way (the first way), and it worked really well.

2. You can try to find a game that involves conversation. I’m not sure how many games there are like this, but I’m sure there must be some. You are the game expert – do you know of any? I actully recently saw a game that is meant for dates. It has questions to find out about the other person.

Boggle and chess are probably bad ideas (especially boggle).

Biggolem – thanks! Yeah, I don’t think I’d want to marry someone who can’t handle it if I beat him.

Most board games involve thinking so you can’t talk. With bowling, it’s easier to talk.

BG- like I said previously, if it’s only for part of the date, I think it’s fine.

That makes sense. Although I did find it to be a good warm-up at the beginning of a first date.

Do you think it’s a problem for a girl to beat a boy at a game on a date?

…so I suspected he may have let me win the first time anyhow.

It shouldn’t be. (And that feeling is not one you want to give someone.)

This issue can be avoided with a cooperative game (a what?),

to the extent that one person cares more about the other’s

experience than about winning the game itself.

I’m surprised that so many here have a low opinion of playing boardgames. If you’ve gone out five times or so, how’s it different from dave and busters or bowling or archery?

I have a classroom speech from a sem teacher in which she says

that while Dave & Busters dates are accepted as essential, many

girls have told her they came back wondering what the point was…

(I have a high opinion of playing games in general, by the way.)

You can try to find a game that involves conversation. …there must be some… do you know of any? I actually recently saw a game that is meant for dates. It has questions to find out about the other person.

I wonder if I can guess what you saw. Pocket Ungame: Couples Edition (or some other version of The Ungame, called Tell It Like it IS in some editions)? The Jewish dating game, Perfect Matches? (I’d like to know more about that one, but my already-married brother won’t let me check out his opened-but-unused copy.)

That sort of thing is more conversation crutch than game, though.

Games in which you try to get another person to guess what you’re

hinting at might be fun to do as an activity (although they’re

usually designed for multiple teams of multiple people).

This includes things like Password, “$(amounts vary) Pyramid,” Taboo, Articulate!, etc. Probably the most modern one is Codenames or Codenames: Pictures, which include a 2-player cooperative mode. In them, there’s a grid of words (or pictures) on the table. One player tries to give one-word clues that apply to as many of them that are “yours” as possible while avoiding those that aren’t yours (especially the instant-loss one).

If taking turns adding to a story sounds good to you, you have

these options that I am aware of: 1. The competitive Once Upon a Time,

in which you try to get fairy-tale story element cards out of

your hand by using them in the story (or if the other person

mentions them, which passes the telling to you), then end the

story in a particular way. 2. Rory’s Story Cubes, which are a

bunch of dice with symbols on them that suggest story elements.

They can be used in a number of ways.

I once played a game on a date and we were each trying to let the other win.

court street in downtown brooklyn (plenty of street parking) the brooklyn strategist.

I live in/around Queens.

If you don’t mind babysitting my kids you’re more than welcome to play boardgames in my dining room. Help yourself to anything the fridge, there’s even some leftover chulent in there.

the brooklyn strategist. less than 20 minutes from queens in downtown brooklyn on court street.

maybe try one of the hotels near LaGuardia?

sorry, but there was nothing unique about it, so I’m sure you can easily find another place like that. I think it was just some ordinary cafe. I think it was probably on Main Street because I remember that he didn’t have a car (I guess he was too tznius for that – actually, not).

If you live in Queens, shouldn’t you be able to find out about Cafes or lounges there? Of if it’s the girl who lives in Queens and not you, can you ask her?

Sorry I can’t be more helpful.

Randomex: “You can get Perfect Matches from the PerfectMatchesGame website”

That’s the game I was talking about before and couldn’t remember what it was called! Thank you! Why wouldn’t your brother let you look at it?

I just saw your post with all the game suggestions. I knew you would have good ideas.

Note: If a game is produced by Yidden, there may be a halachic problem with saying anything online that may cause less people to buy the game.

Meno, what’s the ungame? It sounds familiar. Is it also similar to Perfect Matches – asking each other questions?

Big Golem – did you figure out what to do yet?

btw, I’m very impressed that you put so much thought into your dates.

It depends. Not always.