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December 4, 2016 5:26 am at 5:26 am #618770tzniusMember
can someone please let me know if black nail polish is tznius?
December 4, 2016 1:32 pm at 1:32 pm #1205688Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantno, but it might be better than red.
December 4, 2016 2:09 pm at 2:09 pm #1205689takahmamashParticipantWhy ask here? Why not ask a rebetzin or teacher that you know, instead of depending on anonymous posters who may or may not know what they’re talking about?
December 4, 2016 2:27 pm at 2:27 pm #1205690Lilmod UlelamaidParticipanttakahmamash – good point. But maybe she is embarrassed to ask.
December 4, 2016 8:00 pm at 8:00 pm #1205691takahmamashParticipantBut maybe she is embarrassed to ask.
I hope tznius is a she.
December 4, 2016 8:14 pm at 8:14 pm #1205692Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantIn another thread she said she was looking for a BMG guy.
December 4, 2016 9:27 pm at 9:27 pm #1205693👑RebYidd23ParticipantBlack nail polish looks like bruised fingers. Red looks like bleeding.
December 5, 2016 12:26 am at 12:26 am #1205694LightbriteParticipantDepends on your skin tone, no?
If someone has a complexion that is brown, then a hue of black may actually be fitting and/or tznius. If that same person used a soft pink, then that might be untznius. Wouldn’t that make sense?
Not really. Tznius runs deeper than aesthetics.
December 5, 2016 12:36 am at 12:36 am #1205695tzniusMemberIts not about the looks of it. The question was if its tznius or not. It isnt so dont wear it. (due to majority of writers that posted it isnt tznius so it probably isnt)
December 5, 2016 12:38 am at 12:38 am #1205696Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantI agree with moderator. Although I could see that pink nailpolish might be untznius on someone with black skin. But I still think that black would be worse.
December 5, 2016 12:47 am at 12:47 am #1205697Lilmod UlelamaidParticipant“(due to majority of writers that posted it isnt tznius so it probably isnt)”
Just don’t start drawing any conclusions in the opposite direction. Like if the majority of the anonymous posters in the CR tell you that something is tznius, don’t assume it is.
December 5, 2016 12:52 am at 12:52 am #1205698LightbriteParticipantI asked about skin color because I thought that tznius was also about not being too flashy.
Wait…. Then again, something that is not generally accepted and/or be considered trendy in the non-Jewish world, like black nail polish, wouldn’t be permissible.
Ahhhh… thanks for the reminder Moderator 🙂
December 5, 2016 1:35 am at 1:35 am #1205700Lilmod UlelamaidParticipant“Wait…. Then again, something that is not generally accepted and/or be considered trendy in the non-Jewish world, like black nail polish, wouldn’t be permissible.” 🙂
I think that much as people don’t like admitting it, different types of styles have different meanings. Like, wearing jeans sends a different message than a suit does.
Black nail polish is not pretty. The point of black nail polish is to send a message. When I see black nail polish, I think it says “anti-establishment” or something like that. It’s not just that it stands out; it has no purpose other than standing out.
That being said, if I were teaching teen-age girls who were having a hard time with tznius, I probably wouldn’t say anything about black nailpolish. I certainly would not put it in the same category as short or tight skirts.
December 5, 2016 3:35 am at 3:35 am #1205701tzniusMemberIn the not Jewish world black stands for gothic. Lehavdil like how Jews wear black to a levaya the goyim wear it to remind them of death. So black nail polish reminds people of death.
December 5, 2016 4:26 am at 4:26 am #1205702LightbriteParticipantAhh wow; Thank you for sharing tznius!
December 5, 2016 4:35 am at 4:35 am #1205703Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantthank you tznius – I wanted to say that, but I couldn’t remember the word.
December 5, 2016 11:15 am at 11:15 am #1205704☢️ Rand0m3x 🎲ParticipantThe word “gothic?” Black nail polish fits into the gothic aesthetic;
they don’t share your opinion that it’s not pretty.
(Just wearing black nail polish doesn’t create a gothic look, though.)
I think Lightbrite has a point about black standing out less on
someone with dark skin, and don’t understand how “tznius runs
deeper than aesthetics” applies to a question about aesthetics.
Lehavdil like how Jews wear black to a levaya the goyim wear it to remind them of death.
Huh? It’s non-Jews who wear black to levayos. We wear black all the time. 🙂 More seriously, black symbolizes mourning for Jews as well as for Western civilization – there’s a Gemara about how people weren’t allowed to lace their sandals in black, because it would appear to be presumptuously proclaiming one’s mourning for the Beis haMikdash.
December 5, 2016 1:08 pm at 1:08 pm #1205705zahavasdadParticipantBlack Nail polish is not really the gothic look, Its black Lipstick and black all around , black clothing, but a certain type of black clothing and black hair (You can tell dyed black hair versus natural black hair)
when you see a goth, you know it
December 5, 2016 1:09 pm at 1:09 pm #1205706tzniusMemberFor me personally, i like black nail polish. Everyone has their own taste. I shouldnt post that on here being that now everyone can figure me out since im the only frum girl/lady who wears black nailpolish to the shiurim.
December 5, 2016 2:06 pm at 2:06 pm #1205708MenoParticipantWhat about sparkly nail polish? Is that tznius?
December 5, 2016 2:13 pm at 2:13 pm #1205709Lilmod UlelamaidParticipanttznius – so did you start going to some of the shiurim I mentioned or did you find other ones?
ZD – it could be it’s not literally gothic (I don’t know that much about gothicness), but I meant that it seems to me, that it’s based on the same concept. There is a science to colors and what they represent. Black certainly has a certain meaning.
December 5, 2016 2:51 pm at 2:51 pm #1205710zahavasdadParticipantI am not a fashion expert, but I know goth when I see it
Its a whole look, wearing black doesnt make you goth, the clothes are a certain syle. They just look differnet.
ive seen women with black nail polish who were clearly not goth, Usually if a male has black nailpolish he is goth
December 5, 2016 3:50 pm at 3:50 pm #1205711Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantMeno – for you, no.
December 5, 2016 4:08 pm at 4:08 pm #1205712Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantTznius, I just want to clarify a few things about my earlier statements:
1. Everything I wrote and will write in this post is my own personal opinion. I never asked a Rav about black nail polish and never read anything about it anywhere.
2. When I said that it’s untznius, I did not mean that it’s assur. To my knowledge, it’s not assur. I merely meant that if you are asking about it, I would certainly say that it is a higher level of tznius not to wear it.
It is definitely not in the same category as wearing short skirts which is a clear-cut issur. I also would not put it in the same category as wearing certain styles which may not be mentioned in the Shulchan Aruch (since the Shulchan Aruch can’t deliniate every pritzusdik style that the oilam might come up with), but are CLEARLY assur to anyone who has a sense of tznius. I have seen girls wearing styles that were so pritzusdik even though they didn’t break any technical rules. I would not put black nailpolish in that category.
I would describe it as a level of tznius. It’s the type of thing that a Rebbetzin wouldn’t do and that one should be trying to outgrow, but right now, if you are a young girl and you feel that this is something that you like doing and that is hard for you to stop doing, it’s not assur, and there are probably more important things for you to work on whether in tznius or in other areas.
I don’t think it’s something to lose sleep over or worry about if it makes you feel good. Find something else to work on. At the same time, if you do want to send your kids to certain schools and be part of a certain society, you may want to think about eventually stopping to wear black nail polish at least by the time you have kids who are school-age, if not sooner.
December 5, 2016 4:15 pm at 4:15 pm #1205713apushatayidParticipantAre you wearing gloves?
December 5, 2016 4:37 pm at 4:37 pm #1205714MenoParticipant“can someone please let me know if black nail polish is tznius?”
Tznius,
You should talk to MsPrincess. She knows all about the Halachos of nail polish and which colors are acceptable.
It’s been a while since she posted though.
December 5, 2016 5:33 pm at 5:33 pm #1205715gavra_at_workParticipantYou make the assumption that any color nail polish is “Tznius”.
Why is any nail polish “Tznius”? And if it is, why is black different?
December 5, 2016 5:56 pm at 5:56 pm #1205716Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantShe might have a new name now. But I haven’t noticed anyone who sounds like her. Hope she’s okay.
December 5, 2016 6:08 pm at 6:08 pm #1205717Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantGAW – while most Yeshivish girls don’t wear any nail polish, I think that most people would not say that it is assur to wear light pink nail polish. Although if it’s really unacceptable in your community, it probably shouldn’t be done. (although personally, I think there should be some leeway given for older single girls).
December 5, 2016 6:30 pm at 6:30 pm #1205718JosephParticipantlilmod, why should older single girls be given more leeway?
December 5, 2016 6:51 pm at 6:51 pm #1205719gavra_at_workParticipantlilmod ulelamaid – You already said this isn’t an “Assur” type issue. To quote from above:
2. When I said that it’s untznius, I did not mean that it’s assur. To my knowledge, it’s not assur. I merely meant that if you are asking about it, I would certainly say that it is a higher level of tznius not to wear it.
So once again, who says nail polish is Tznius?
December 5, 2016 7:37 pm at 7:37 pm #1205720tzniusMemberlilmod ulelamaid – I started going to a certain place (not saying the name in case you figure out where i live) that has a lot of shiurim and usually go to it at least once per day if not twice or three times. I learn halacha, parsha, tomer devorah, navi, and lots more fun stuff there and they even sometimes have special speakers come in from all over the place (specifically Israel) to speak. So no, i did not go to the shiurim that you mentioned since as of right now i go to the place where i learn all that i mentioned.
December 5, 2016 7:43 pm at 7:43 pm #1205721tzniusMemberlilmod ulelamaid – I also learn gemera and mishna by myself and i might get tapes from rabbi k to listen to help me since i cannot learn it with a guy. Over winter break which starts next week iy’h i might learn Tanya and rambam as well like how i use to 5 years ago.
December 5, 2016 7:45 pm at 7:45 pm #1205722tzniusMemberMeno – For me all nail polish is tznius but for other people please dont rely on my knowledge of what my rav told me please ask your LOR.
December 5, 2016 7:55 pm at 7:55 pm #1205723MenoParticipantMy LOR says I shouldn’t be wearing nail polish at all.
Wait, didn’t you ask if black nail polish is tznius? So why are you saying that all nail polish is tznius for you?
December 5, 2016 8:11 pm at 8:11 pm #1205724gavra_at_workParticipantMy LOR says I shouldn’t be wearing nail polish at all.
There you go.
Speaking of Tznius, did you ask your LOR if you should be braiding your hair as well?
December 5, 2016 9:41 pm at 9:41 pm #1205726Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantGAW – sorry, but I lost you. If it’s not assur, why assume that nail polish is untznius? Or is your point that no one should assume that it is tznius? I didn’t think anyone was. It is debatable. Many would say it’s not. I was simply stating my opinion.
December 5, 2016 9:44 pm at 9:44 pm #1205727tzniusMembergavra_at_work – i chopped my hair off (not literally its up to my shoulder but compared to the waist i chopped it off).
December 5, 2016 9:47 pm at 9:47 pm #1205728Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantI once worked in a modern school during a time-period when blue and purple nail polish were very in style in certain circles, and all the girls were wearing blue and purple nail polish.
I really wanted to wear blue nail polish, so I decided to wear it on Purim, since I figured it’s the one day a year I could get away with it. However, when I was about to wash for the Seudah on Purim night, I suddenly realized that I had to take it off if I wanted to wash. I figured that it was a bigger Mitzvah to have a seudah Purim night than to wear blue nailpolish – so there went the blue nailpolish! Oh, well. Boruch Hashem, I got a Mitzvah instead.
December 5, 2016 10:23 pm at 10:23 pm #1205729tzniusMemberlilmod ulelamaid – Why would you need to take off your nail polish to wash for a seuda? I always wash my hands with nailpolish on? Do you mean it was not dry?
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December 5, 2016 10:33 pm at 10:33 pm #1205730Lilmod UlelamaidParticipanttznius – shkoyach! Tizki L’Mitzvos. That must have been hard to do – I’m impressed.
December 5, 2016 10:35 pm at 10:35 pm #1205731Lilmod UlelamaidParticipant“What about sparkly nail polish? Is that tznius?”
just “chapped”.
December 5, 2016 10:38 pm at 10:38 pm #1205732Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantTznius – who chose your subtitle?
December 5, 2016 10:44 pm at 10:44 pm #1205733tzniusMemberlilmod ulelamaid – Nope it was not really hard because when your hair grows very long it dies so i mineswell cut it so i did.
December 6, 2016 12:55 am at 12:55 am #1205736👑RebYidd23ParticipantHow can hair die?
December 6, 2016 1:46 am at 1:46 am #1205737Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantsplit ends – I think.
December 6, 2016 2:16 am at 2:16 am #1205738tzniusMemberRebYidd23 – Its called split ends but since i had so many i call it that it died.
December 6, 2016 2:29 am at 2:29 am #1205739Lilmod UlelamaidParticipantI never understood what’s so terrible about split ends.
December 6, 2016 2:41 am at 2:41 am #1205740tzniusMemberlilmod ulelamaid – The hairs not healthy so it stops growing and also it doesnt look nice. It looks like a rats nest.
December 6, 2016 2:48 am at 2:48 am #1205741LightbriteParticipantHair is splitting. Breaking off. Like a tree branch that keeps getting hacked at until it’s this frayed little finger pointing at you
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