I would love to share a personal story that happened- in our days- to me that changed my life.
My first child was born after 4 years and after 4 pregnancies. Before she was born, we had a full term, a 6 month , and miscarriage all diagnosed with seriously head malformation which none of them survived more than a few hours. We went from docter to docter only being told our percent of having a healthy child was very low since this repeated to many times.
Of course we cried we prayed and tried to do tziva with zaduka and tzinias and so fourth.
At the same time my spouse was not in good terms with (the) father. Since marriage it was just a hello and goodby relationship. One day I had a talk with my spouse. That possible the relationship between (the) father and child caused us, these problems. Maybe it’s mida kanaged mida . Your father is pained from us, so were pained from our children.
I begged my spouse to make up with (the) father. I begged and cried untill my spouse got courage to visit (the) father and ask for apology.
My spouse drove down to (the) parents house but just couldn’t get to ring that bell, my spouse froze. Standing there for a while my spouse felt the impossible ,turned around and came home.
A day latter my father -in- law called and said he would like to meet with my spouse .They met in a planned shul. I was confused..How did my father-in-law- know what (the) child tried to do, and besides what are they talking about?
When my spouse got home , and shared what (the) father said I was chilled from head to toe.
My father-in-law said he had an interesting dream .He dreamed he saw the old Squarer Rabbi and went over to him with a kavitel. When he was close to the rabbi the rabbi tells him try to make up with your child so they will have the zachiya to have children!!!!!
I forgive you and you forgive me and lets renew our reationship. Which they did.
In that same year we had our first healthy child B”h.
More then anything I was fond to see the connections between Hashem and his children. My spouse tried (the) outmost . Hashem knew it and had his own way to bring them together so we should have the zachiya to have children. I was touched with the recognition how hashem knows our thoughts before it said ,how he sees our actions, how he has his own unique way to help his children every secound of life….
Hashem loves shulem. Please for the sake of shulem forgive and forget…
P.s.my father-in-law was a Squarer chusid. Since I wanted to protect the privacy of my spouse I had to write it the way it was written.
