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They are pretty. They smell so good. But why do girls/women want them so much? They don’t really do anything and they will wither away in a couple of days.
If you gave me flowers (even a dozen roses) I would say thanks, but if much rather have something I can really enjoy. Or fake flowers so they will last!
But girls don’t want fake flowers! There is even an old (Goyish) song entitles Paper Roses which compares paper roses to fake love…
So what is it about flowers (especially roses) that you like so much?
SiDi™
It is a billion dollar business
Fake flowers are ugly and don’t smell good. And transient beauty is not any less beautiful. And the ladies don’t want the flowers as much as they want someone special to buy them flowers.
Because if you buy a girl a vacuum cleaner, she thinks you’re telling her to work. And if you buy her fake flowers, it’s like saying you never want to buy her flowers again.
It is because they are temporary that they are so appreciated the giver is saying I could have spent this money on myself but i chose to buy these flowers for you even tho i know they will be in the trash can in a week, its the thought that counts, this is my way of saying how much i appreciate/love/respect you that i would spend my money on something that will be gone soon.
It’s a sweet gesture. It’s something out of the norm.
Sidi, it’s an emotional thing, men don’t understand it, but know it’s the right thing to do, shabbos queen also likes fresh flowers
Sidi
Were talking women over here.
You buy her a book, its saying shes not educated.
You buy a cd, she thinks you dont want to hear her.
You buy her jewelry/ makeup, she thinks she looks bad.
You buy her clothing, she thinks you hate her taste.
And so on
Safest bet- flowers
My husband brought me flowers one shabbos during the one week that I didn’t have time to take any showers, I thought it was very thoughtful
“You buy a cd, she thinks you dont want to hear her.”
Personally, I’d take a CD over flowers any day. (I’d take a CD over pretty much anything, actually.) 🙂
Seriously though, flowers generally don’t cost as much as clothing, jewelry etc. (I hope!) Often my father will just buy my mother flowers for Shabbos because he is in the mood to buy her something, but people generally don’t want to spend money on expensive gifts every second week! Flowers are just a nice, fairly inexpensive way to show someone you care about them.
sayididit I grow flowers in my backyard I will give u some
Flowers are also something you can give with another gift. And though chocolate could possibly be seen as an insult, it isn’t.
Fake flowers are ugly and don’t smell good. And transient beauty is not any less beautiful. And the ladies don’t want the flowers as much as they want someone special to buy them flowers.
One of the best gifts I bought for my wife was, for our anniversary, I had her wedding bouquet replicated in silk flowers. 🙂
The Wolf
WolfishMusings I will get u a lifetime supply of roses
My friends husband gave her the best gift of all, a divorce.
She was VERY appreciative.
I agree that flowers are a poor investment. They can be expensive and don’t last long. Roses are beautiful but they seem to have the shortest lifespan of looking beautiful, and when I do buy flowers I avoid them. My wife appreciates when I give them before Shabbos or Yom Tov, but I won’t buy flowers for any other occasion. I prefer to buy something of more lasting, memorable nature. As far as I am concerned, florists are one of the biggest ripoff businesses, but I don’t blame the vendors. People are just suckers for flowers.
Rema,
I don’t mind… I do a fair amount of floral photography. 🙂
The Wolf
Raises the cost, lowers the damages when she sees you got her a vacuum cleaner.
RebYidd23 get ur wife a chocolate rose u will thank me later
I would take chocolate over flowers any day, but that’s just little immature me. 🙂
I think I would prefer the second option, Sidi. Happy anniversary, btw. (?)
I’d say chocolate in a heartbeat and I don’t think that’s immature 🙂
I like fresh flowers as well. A lot. With our small emptyish apartment, fresh flowers add a whole lot of life. Fake flowers just don’t stand out the same way as a fresh bouquet. I know it’s not practical though for everyday (got fake ones for that) but when we’re home for Shabbos that’s the way it’s got to be.
Real flowers – when put together well – can be breathtaking. I personally grew up that flowers are a part of Shabbos and Yom Tov. Table looks empty without them (even when set well). Flowers smell heavenly too (depends which one) and brighten a room (cant argue with that)
You can buy a real bouquet:
1. L’kovod Shabbos and Yom Tov
2. When you think of someone (re: wife)
Now you can say same for chocolates and CD’s. But Hashem created flowers and something sentimental about them.
Naturally, women are closer to Hashem and his world. Therefore, a woman enjoys nature (so there you go about flowers).
Usually a person will purchase flowers when they are thinking of someone and want to show it – that’s what a woman wants from her husband.
A book, CD or chocolates – given a gift – will show that you wanted to buy a gift, not necessarily ‘thinking’.
Ever heard of the expression “It’s the thought that counts?”
Well, that role plays a very big part when it comes to women.
Ask her what she wants in general most normal women like flowers
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