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#I’m writing out of a lot of pain right now,
I had a Rav I really respected but, because of some actions of his, I lost my respect for him.
And now, I have questions that need to be answered, but unsure where to turn.
Any idea of a rav that is reachable that I can talk to, and he’ll understand me?
I care. I am so sorry and I am sure the right person will help provide you with the chizuk you need. Hang in there!
We all care. We are your friends, and stand with you in your hour of need (to the extent that this is possible in an anonymous forum).
For what it’s worth, we share your pain.
Xoxo
Since you live “somewhere out there”, it is very hard to direct you to a Rav who might be within reasonable distance of you.
May Hashem give you the strength you need to get through this.
That’s very sad, I’m sorry for your pain. I know a R’ Rosenblatt in Queens that is very nice B’H. I hope you find someone that can help you G-d willing. Kol tov
sorry, I’m assuming NY but I don’t know where you are. But may you find someone to help you
I used to be a Rabbi. Then I joined the CR…
(btw, there’s a specific issur, prohibition to cause pain to an orphan, or any disadvantaged individual. Not something to be taken lightly. Tell him I said)
I am saddened to hear of your painful situation. Are there any Shuls in your area in which you feel comfortable? Even if the Rabbi of such a Shul is not whom you seek (or if there is no Rabbi), perhaps someone there can make a recommendation.
Davening 4 you!
Terrible, just terrible. Is there a principal (male or female) or something from your BY that you can turn to you? Any mentors/role models?
You need a therapist, not a rabbi. You need to find someone who will help you learn how to make your own decisions. You need to find a therapist who can help you explore why you allowed your rabbi to verbally abuse you and degrade you. I’m not at all implying it was your fault. Rather for you own good, you need to explore how you can protect yourself from being abused by others. You need someone to help you realize your own value, and what kind of marriage partner would be good for you. You need someone to help you believe in yourself and be confident in the decisions you make.
Find a therapist. Not a rabbi. Maybe Relief organization can direct you to find a therapist.
hashtagposter – I just went through the same earthshattering, mindblowing experience you did and it shook me down to me very foundation. (both your first problem, and your second) I said the exact same words you did as well, that if my yiddishkeit was not so strong due to so many hardships, I would have lost faith. It is sooo unbelievably painful, and I live in a town small enough for everyone to know exactly who I would be speaking about, so I can bearely even go to anyone for support. It has been an excruciating recovery, and I am not there yet. B”H you found someone, anyone, to validate your feelings. I am working hard on trying to figure out where to go for help to get through this without pulling someone else in (by sharing the information I have)so I can sleep at night.
Whatever the purpose for all of this, just be glad you arrived to the other side and think how strong you will be for the next person who comes along and needs help.
Much much much hatzlocha!
hashtagposter: I am really happy you found a friend who you can share your story with and get emotional support and validation. I actually wanted to suggest that in my first post, but forgot to post it.
There is one thing I want to add. When getting advice from anyone, use your own judgement. Even if it’s from someone you trust.
Hatzlacha rabba.
This brought tears to my eyes as well.
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