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June 6, 2014 4:39 am at 4:39 am #612946yeshivabachur80Member
Is there a large frum singles community in LA? Wht’s it like?
June 6, 2014 4:59 am at 4:59 am #1018694bhe (Joseph)ParticipantIt isn’t a good idea to seek out a “singles community” as they breed a sense of normality and prolong, if not indefinitely, this state. The UWS is a bad example of this phenomenon.
June 6, 2014 8:06 am at 8:06 am #1018695sm29ParticipantThere’s the Pico-Robertson area, but that’s MO, although you can try the LINK Kollel there for frum singles. There’s also a variety of singles in the valley like Valley Village besides families. The La Brea area has a nice amount singles from Bais Yaakov besides families
June 6, 2014 11:29 am at 11:29 am #1018696popa_bar_abbaParticipantTo the contrary, it is a very good idea. Those who point to the UWS confuse cause and effect. The singles on the UWS would be single anywhere.
June 6, 2014 12:16 pm at 12:16 pm #1018697PulsingFlowerMemberThere’s the Pico-Robertson area, but that’s MO, although you can try the LINK Kollel there for frum singles.
Are you saying MO folks are not frum?!
How dare you!
If anything, they are better than you because they don’t constantly bash your hashkafa. If you don’t agree with their hashkafas, fine, but how dare you profess them to not be frum!
I have no idea where your assumption comes from, but it is absolutely terrible! The BHMK was destroyed because of spewing insulting, hateful garbage like you’re doing!
Yes, you may not agree with them, but to say they aren’t frum (i.e they don’t care about torah and mitzvos, and they have no yiras shamayim)is a discrace.
How would you like it if somebody kicked you out of Judaism because they didn’t like something you did!?
Please, let’s show that D’racheha Darchei Noiam!
June 6, 2014 12:32 pm at 12:32 pm #1018698nishtdayngesheftParticipantSomeone has a severe anger management issue. And an inferiority complex.
You really should seek help.
June 6, 2014 12:40 pm at 12:40 pm #1018699golferParticipantGet a hold of yourself, PFlower. Nobody here said MO is not frum. You made the assumption yourself and then got yourself all excited. It was just pointed out that a certain neighborhood is MO. That’s all. Please don’t turn this into another – MO-is-great-no-it’s-not-yes-it-is-ad-nauseum thread. We have tons of those already.
And, just for the record, I’m part of a very very mixed family. The super black and white yeshivish, and the full-garb chassidim are never the ones bashing any behavior or hashkafa (although I have on occasion noticed them surreptitiously redirect their eyes) when we all get together at simchas. It’s the MO who always feel they have to poke fun at minhagim they don’t share, and get into long-winded discussions proving how smart they are. The others pass around the Mazel Tovs, tell a few stories, and leave the chakiras for the Bais Medrash.
June 6, 2014 1:23 pm at 1:23 pm #1018700PulsingFlowerMemberI love getting yelled at. Nothing like starting a nice screaming match on messed up diyukim.
Come to think of it, I probably should have let it go on longer, but I hate reading the same points over and over again.
June 6, 2014 1:33 pm at 1:33 pm #1018701TheGoqParticipantTo bhe all i can say is singles do need a social outlet sitting at home waiting for the shadchan to call is not a life, shidduch dating is not for everyone, ask your grandparents how they met.
June 6, 2014 1:36 pm at 1:36 pm #1018702rationalfrummieMemberWow that got crazy. Sm29 was just trying to make a distinction between MO and yeshivish communities in LA. Yes, they could have said it better, but you being a smart person should have understood what they were trying to communicate and shouldn’t have incited sinah with such an angry post.
That said, golfer’s personal anecdote is nice, but has nothing to do with emes. You think you’re promoting unity by claiming to be from a mixed family, but then defeat that purpose by claiming that its davka MO people that insult others. If you were really honest and fair, you’d be modeh that both chareidi and mo people can be demeaning of others- it’s not a hashkafah problem but a human problem. At least the MO don’t accuse chareidim of being apikorsim, amalek, and sonei Hashem. It’s probably less bad to make fun of a minhag than to call another Jew an oved avodah zarah (see Hakatan’s posts, l’mashal).
June 6, 2014 1:40 pm at 1:40 pm #1018703TheGoqParticipantsm29 should have said or you can try the link kollel for YESHIVISH singles, so while pf did overreact sm29 did I’m sure by accident used the word frum instead of yeshivish.
June 6, 2014 1:42 pm at 1:42 pm #1018704DaMosheParticipantgolfer: sm29’s post was somewhat poorly worded. It said, “There’s the Pico-Robertson area, but that’s MO, although you can try the LINK Kollel there for frum singles.” That seems to imply that MO isn’t frum. Personally, I figured it was poorly worded and nothing was meant by it, but I can see where PulsingFlower got it from.
June 6, 2014 1:56 pm at 1:56 pm #1018705baruchderrinParticipanttheres nothing wrong with living in the modern world, ie using air conditioning etc but when we start making hyphen-judaisms, for example MO, that is a problem. We are torah jews, the torah didnt change, it doesnt need to evolve for modern times, that is apikorsut. we need to learn to live by the torah despite living in modern times, not fabricate our own “modern” interpretations of torah to fit our needs. you can be any label of jew you want but if you are not a torah-jew, you got it all wrong…
June 6, 2014 1:59 pm at 1:59 pm #1018707☕ DaasYochid ☕Participantbut I can see where PulsingFlower got it from.
Lol, it’s called trolling, and it worked.
June 6, 2014 2:48 pm at 2:48 pm #1018708YW Moderator-42ModeratorCongats to pf on using a dumb diyuk to completely derail this topic. I hope sm29 realizes that pf is just out to cause trouble (trolling) and it’s nothing personal.
Back to “singles communities”, I have to agree with bhe here, move into a community with people who of your age group and hashkafa whether they are married or single. An exclusively singles community doesn’t sound like a great idea.
June 6, 2014 4:06 pm at 4:06 pm #1018709To be or not to beMember“Are you saying MO folks are not frum?!
How dare you!
If anything, they are better than you because they don’t constantly bash your hashkafa. If you don’t agree with their hashkafas, fine, but how dare you profess them to not be frum!
I have no idea where your assumption comes from, but it is absolutely terrible! The BHMK was destroyed because of spewing insulting, hateful garbage like you’re doing!
Yes, you may not agree with them, but to say they aren’t frum (i.e they don’t care about torah and mitzvos, and they have no yiras shamayim)is a discrace.
How would you like it if somebody kicked you out of Judaism because they didn’t like something you did!?
Please, let’s show that D’racheha Darchei Noiam!”
Yo brother, chillax! : )( I love how you do that)
June 6, 2014 4:23 pm at 4:23 pm #1018710golferParticipantTbontb, yes, agreed, chillax will be the order of the day.
No further digressions, please.
Let’s help yeshivabachur (was that maybe his name that made sm29 think he might not fit into an MO crowd? And am I about to get bunches of hate mail informing me that MO is as full of yeshiva bachurim as any other group?) find his place in LA.
June 6, 2014 4:29 pm at 4:29 pm #1018711charliehallParticipantMy rav learned at YU. My wife’s rav learned at Lakewood. We have been happily married for nine years. Do not automatically assume that because you are connected to a different community that you are incompatible.
June 6, 2014 4:38 pm at 4:38 pm #1018712PulsingFlowerMemberNice society you made:)
June 6, 2014 6:20 pm at 6:20 pm #1018713sm29ParticipantPulsing flower, I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to
imply that MO is not frum. I should have said for litvish singles, go to….
I respect MO in the Pico-Robertson area in LA as also Observant Jews. I don’t believe in looking down on people. There are different ways in the Orthodox world, and even if we disagree, we can still respect each other.
June 6, 2014 7:12 pm at 7:12 pm #1018715popa_bar_abbaParticipantJust because generally MO are frum, does not mean that the ones in Pico-Robertson are. I don’t know the people in Pico-Robertson, and don’t know what the term MO means there.
Pulsing flower, you should not be so quick to jump to conclusions.
June 8, 2014 12:37 pm at 12:37 pm #1018716TheGoqParticipantCan we go back to the original topic please? why does the op want to live in a community that has a lot of singles? probably because that is a good place to network and date its also good to be around people who are in the same boat as you and people you can go out to coffee with or do something fun with.
June 8, 2014 3:28 pm at 3:28 pm #1018717To be or not to beMember(isn’t single community an oxymoron?)
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