I dare you……

For someone who professes to be a therapist, you sure don’t seem to know much about people.

I am a plumber. I am female. I live in Kalamazoo (which, by the way, is not really a zoo).

I post here because it gives me a deep sense of satisfaction to insult anonymous people.

The fact that I (used to) post with no identifying issues says that I’m afraid of meeting popa in real life. This is a very healthy thing, almost as healthy as spinach (but with less of a chashash of tolaim).

And if it demonstrates a lack of self-esteem, do you want to take away all the happiness of losers who aren’t good for anything else?

My name is George, I’m a typist. I don’t post under my real name, because some people discriminate against monkeys.

The therapist- I find it disturbing that even with no identifying information, some have the tendency to hide and joke around.

Name: ‘Therapy’

Meta-analysis:

Hides behind vocation. Prefers anonymity. Not confident about self: Either name, or body image. Decision aversion. Possible DID. Possible Environmental variables. Narcissistic to other CR users.

Pre-therapy Prognosis: Excessive Bystander intervention Hyperactive Disorder

Don’t lie about your age. You are six or seven years old, fully grown, and you sometimes don’t meow.

Syag, fell for what?

If anything, I fell for the thread. I was intimidated by the OP’s implication of cowardice, and revealed much more of my identity than I usually do.

Now how am I going to get a shidduch?

I would never come to see you, because you view people’s emotions as “interesting” observations.

You are so completely removed from any ability to empathize with other people that you literally came on here and did the exact thing that you accused us of (by accusing us of it). You are truly a sociopath.

And a sociopath does not a good therapist make.

And you really do owe us your real name now, to remove the anonymity from your attack on us.

Why I post here?

In case you haven’t figured it out yet, it’s to spread the light. (y’know “a light onto the..”)

sorry but based on your response you definantly psycho-analyzed this whole conversation.

Seriously though, from the cr rules:

1 – Please don’t try to pry out personal information. Any questions or comments directed towards trying to “figure out” a blogger’s identity will not be tolerated.

im not trying to sound mean but if you keep bashing us and trying to pull information out of us then you need to share first..that’s the way life works.

To say something personal about yourself. Why the need to post with a ridiculous made-up name? Say what your profession is (I think it’s obvious what mine is), your gender, where you live, why do you enjoy posting here. What does it say about us that we post with no real identifying issue, is this a healthy thing? “

I find it very interesting that you feel this way. The main reason why some of us may choose to NOT identify ourselves, is in order to feel comfortable IRL, should we actually turn out to meet other members of the CR. Can’t happen, you say? Already has. And while I am absolutely delighted to have discovered a long-lost friend here, through mamesh Hashgocha Protis, perhaps others among us would not feel similarly-inclined, particularly if they expressed a thought that was less than flattering, regarding someone else’s opinion.

In any case, yes, it is perfectly healthy to remain anonymous. It enables some of us to express thoughts and concerns that may be intensely emotional, and to reach out to others who might actually have something helpful to say, by way of good advice, chizuk, or commiseration.

Do some people need actual therapy? Undoubtedly. But for many people it is completely therapeutic, cathartic, and freeing, to express themselves in the CR, and guess what – it is absolutely free of charge!!!!!

BTW, it really helps avoid getting cyber-stalked, when you keep your private info private. Just saying… And of that, I unfortunately know whereof I speak.

Oomis, exactly!! To the tee. Every point.

For me, (and everyone can see this) I’m already busted, many, to my disdain know me IRL and everything I wish to express has to be scrutinized and veiled. What I do write these days is much less than those “good-old” days when I ran completely undisturbed. Changing my s/n again won’t do much, I can’t hide from my inner self, that’s me and it’s probably gonna be me.

Another disturbing factor (cannot be avoided, I guess) is when anyone here “whacks” me, it hurts a lot more, it gets chewed and rechewed by those “in the know”. No, it not a comfortable feeling. Surprise! I do have feelings. Sometimes very, very sensitive. And the hurt factor adjusts accordingly.

I know, it’s my fault for “opening my mouth” in the first place, still…

I may yet choose to switch to again to another, if just to confuse the newest “family members” for some time – just a possibility.

oomis, I totally agree with you! That is what I was wondering, is it a healthy thing or not. On one hand, of course I get the value of speaking our mind anonymously. On the other hand, then there is no accountability and its easy to attack others, etc. I think there is alot to be analyzed from the types who do post here and why but i didnt really mean to ask so seriously, but just like most people, to start an interesting thread, to relax, or when Im bored or too tired to do anything else.

BTW, Im not really a therapist. I’m a mailman. Or a Sheitelmacher. Or an actuary. Or a cowboy. Or a triple agent who has been turned.

Just kidding. I am a therapist. And if anyone figures out who I am, big whoop.

PS I dont think I am defensive, I just have the (terrible) habit of sometimes trying to be rational. Even in coffee room

I actually read through your entire long boring post on the off chance you had hidden your apology in the middle.

Folks, don’t bother reading it. He doesn’t apologize.

And one thing we ask. Please be civil towards us, you condescending not nice and nasty person.

All the best and good shabbos,

Popa Ibn Abba

I’m more afraid he’ll come back as The_Tzaddik.

Its quite sick when someone learns special skills that are taught to help people, and uses them to hurt people instead.

I agree Little Froggie. What was nasty? Maybe a little nosy. Not nasty. He was just wondering about people’s motives.

Nobody here ever questions their own motives? It is a good thing to do once in a while. Keeps you on track. Personally, his question got me thinking. Why did everyone become so defensive? I didnt think he came to attack in his first post.