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What is a purposeless existence?
For example if someone is addicted to online political arguments and games (RPG) — which take up about eight hours a day. He is unemployed and pretends to work on an unpaid internship.
Is he wasting both this and future life?
Internet addiction is a serious problem, and nirah li that this person should go to therapy to understand why he is behaving the way he is. An addicted person tries to make up for some failure or lack of something in his life by overdoing it in another area. This guy should check himself out, figure out what he wants in life, make goals, and accomplish them. Here’s a good start: go back to school, get a job, learn with a rabbi, maybe start dating (it makes you clean up your act).
maybe start dating (it makes you clean up your act).
No it doesn’t. A person with issues should take care of those issue before contemplating marriage. Otherwise he is just giving his problems to another person. It’s not fair to a girl.
Trust- no way. When you start dating, if you have issues you better get rid of them and learn from your mistakes, or else have a hard time in shidduchim. The pressure makes you rise to the occasion. How can you give your problems to someone else? If they don’t like you, shape up, or move on. It’s totally fair.
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If you did one mitzvah today, you are not wasting your life. Make someone smile and you will be building your life int eh world to come. Until your life in this world gets better, focus on the next. And don’t forget to ask Hashem for help in everything you do!
Your existence is very purposeful – but you are wasting it. Get up, get a real job or go to school, and start making a difference. Don’t look for people to caress you and tell you not to feel bad about doing nothing all day. Trust me, you’re better than that.
If you have a PhD in Math then I do not see how you can’t get a job at least teaching in high school. You must be a very smart man so the job market is certainly open to you if you look. But there are two plausible reasons you are in this predicament in life: either you are lazy or you had/have serious life challenges that are preventing you from moving forward. If it is the first, do the correct thing for yourself and just get a job. Any job. Move around, talk to friends, and make money. You will see improvement in just one day. If it is the latter, then you need to learn how to cope healthily. See a therapist, talk to a trusted friend, and confront your problems head on. And even if it is the latter, doing nothing is not going to help.
I’m also helplessly addicted to this place.
H E L P!!
If your depression is chronic then you need to see a psychiatrist and take the medication you need. If your depression is only a result of your current lifestyle then you should still see a therapist (a good psychologist can tell you if you need medication or not) but realize that it is in your hands to change it. Internet addicts anonymous may be helpful to you as group therapy is very powerful. As difficult as it may sound, the first step needs to be you getting up. Once you make an honest effort to change, everything else will be much easier. My suggestion of getting a job still stands, even if it means cleaning floors at a pizza restaurant.
Many don’t take internet and video game addictions seriously but they are for sure a real addiction like any other and often a professional and experienced therapist can help you out.
In the meantime, the fact you are alive right now means Hashem has a purpose for you so don’t sell yourself short and don’t sell Hashem’s master plan short either. You obviously are feeling in a deep pit but don’t try to pull yourself all the way out all at once – it’s too overwhelming. Just focus on doing some little positive thing every day and build on that like you would build a muscle. Over time it will snowball into a lot of growth and success but you NEED patience! Trust me. Also try reading the sefer “Meshivat Nafesh.” It can totally change your life and you can even just learn 5 minutes of it a day (still have plenty of time left to websurf :p ) B’hatzlacha tzaddik, you’re gonna get through this
No life is purposeless. All life is precious. It is a pity if it is wasted, but no less precious.
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