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i just got embarrassed in public… should i take it as a kapara and move on or tell the person i was embarrased..?
Take it as a kappara, but you should confront them in a not threatening way and discuss why they treated you this way.
It really depends on the situation and who it was that embarrassed you. If it was and will be a one time occurrence, take it as something you can potentially grow from, however hard that may be. However, if it is a common occurrence from a specific person, please help him/her!
Huh? If it was a pareve comment, why did you take offense?
keep, it is very mesugal time to give a bracha. I’ve read in a few places that someone who is embarrassed and doesn’t respond negatively to the person who is embarrassing them, their brachos at that time have tremendous power. So if it ever happens again think of yourself or those you know that need a yeshua and give a heartfelt bracha.
This is what the Rambam says (Hilchos De’os 6:9); it’s a good thing to remember when people do things like this to you.
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Could you give me a bracha to get into schoolappol he find my Basheret?
I was publicly shamed in the past as well, but never stooped to revenge, and b”h, these memories become blurrier over time. The embarrassment will never completely disappear, but look at it this way: we can’t get gehinnom twice, so hopefully, we were yotzay!
Normally I would suggest trying to feel pity for the person that embarresed you, but you said it was a pareve comment so that wouldn’t work, seeing as the person is not deserving of pity. So in this case, I would go with eclipse’s suggestion( as usual;)
I’m flattered, art-of-moi:)
sounds like she didnt realize she was embarassing you, if she went on n on. You should forgive her, look if there’s a lesson, daven it should be a kappara. Then, if its s/o you can approach n bring it up with, you should tell her that you were uncomfortable with her saying it in public, n just so she knows it was embarrassing, for next time. Dont expect an apology or go looking for one, but let her know to save you or s/o else it next time
Be proud, not ashamed.
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