Yichud Gift for Kallah

A bottle of Glenlivet 25 would probably be appreciated.

Power tools. Every woman’s dream. Trust me I know!

@thumbthrough: Mazal Tov on your recent engagment. May you and your kallah have much nachas and be zocheh to build a Bayit Neaman B’Israel.

You mention that your kallah is “kind of a tomboy”. This would lead me to believe that she enjoys (watching) sports. Perhaps tickets to her favorite sports team. I know, not “bridal” at all. But a gift is suppose to make the recipient happy. Or, you can ask your kallah what SHE would prefer. She’s getting married and old enough to make this kind of desicion.

If possible, please let us know what the outcome is. This is a most interesting scenario.

Think outside the box.

If she’s not into jewelery, then find something else. Who cares if it’s not “traditional.” Does she have a favorite classic book? Find a first edition of it. Does she enjoy hiking? Buy a nice pair of hiking boots.

The point is this: choose a gift that will show your kallah that you thought about her and the type of gift that would please her, and that you’re willing to buck conventional standards for her.

The Wolf

I think a watch is jewelry.

Buy her flowers, and pay the florist to deliver them to the Yichud room. That way you can be done with it quickly, so there’s one less thing to think about.

I disagree with you here.

When speaking to chossonim and kallos, I often tell them not to let the wedding drive them crazy. While it is an important day, it is only one day — one day out of the many that they will spend together for the rest of their lives. As important as it is, it’s still only one day — and it’s not worth spoiling the ones that follow just for that one day.

However, when it comes to a gift for the yichud room, that’s something that she’s going to remember the rest of her life. As a result, you want that memory to be a good one for her in the years to come. So don’t just pick flowers because it’s expedient and “one less thing to think about.” Pick something that’s meaningful. Put more effort into her gift than you do into your suit, the choice of music or who gets which kibbud. Your suit will eventually be worn out, the music will be a passing fad and who got which kibbud will be unimportant in your future life.

If she adores flowers, then by all means, get them. But don’t do it just because it’s easy. Go for meaningful over easy. You’ll win every time.

The Wolf

A set of ramban

@insertusernamehere: Very classy and unique idea. Now comes the machlochet. In Hebrew or English….what does “Rashi say”?

Mazal Tov, thumbthrough. May you build a BNB.

If your Kallah doesn’t have an iPod yet, then that might be an option. You can load her favorite songs on there before you wrap it. You may also be able to engrave it with her name or a short message on the back. Although I’m not sure if that’s possible on the iPod. Perhaps you can check with an engraver. (It might be too thin)

Another idea would be a nice pen with her name engraved on it.

A watch may be considered jewelry but it serves a practical/ functional purpose and is not just ornamental.

Also, a watch can look cute or fun if she doesn’t like a serious looking one so that may be something to consider.

Maybe a nice pair of designer shades. She can never have too many.

If your kallah appreciates flowers, you can get a nice vase and have it monogrammed.

interjection mentioned stud earrings.

Your Kallah will need earrings even if she is not the jewelry type.

Those are a real classic and so versatile. I think you cannot go wrong with diamond studs.

If you want to be on the safe side; you can ask her, but then you lose the element of surprise.

During dating there might have been cute stories, jokes or what not that you shared. Get her something memorable that unique to both of you. or she might have mentioned something she enjoys. Take notes on what she likes, you’ll be busy doing that during your marriage as well. Mazel Tov!

This first gift from husband to wife will never be forgotten. It should be something she will always use and will never forget. It must be something personal.

Being a tomboy does not mean she does not like “girly” things.Does she wear jewelry now? What kind? earrings or a bracelet Now is the time to ask her what were some of her favorite gifts she got in the past. That will point you in the right direction

.Perhaps a new siddur or a set of machzerim. MOST important is the inscription. Your first really, really, personal message from husband to wife.

Most young women will ALWAYS treasure the first gift their husbands give her !!

Wasn’t there another topic about gifts for the yichud room in which many people said the whole idea was ridiculous? I think young couples shouldn’t spend so much on luxuries, especially when many (most?) of them are planning to be partially supported by their parents for a while. Unfortunately, people have been hoodwinked into the idea that certain gifts are required. The only halachic requirement is a wedding ring.

When my wife and I got engaged, I didn’t even get her a engagement ring. It wasn’t for lack of money, but because we thought it was unnecessary (and because at the time buying diamonds was tantamount to supporting apartheid). Years later, when she had a yen for a solitaire, she suggested CZ, which I was happy to get her.

However, when it comes to a gift for the yichud room, that’s something that she’s going to remember the rest of her life.

In my day & age they used to recommend giving a leather bound Siddur.

But in light of the fact that a marriage is supposed to last for decades and one wishes this Yichud room gift to last along this lifetime, & being that I got married during the Omer, I modified this notion to a Shvu’os leather bound Machzor; Being only utilized 2 days a year, IY’H this gift shall last for life.

I like the idea of a siddur; it demonstrates that you also care about your kallah’s spiritual development and religious growth, and depending on how mcuh your kallah actually cares about G-d and tefillah, she may really appreciate that.

an emesdik tomboy? Maybe a 16gauge pump shotgun. If she is of big stature, a 12. If a redhead, keep the ammo wrapped separately. Just don’t get married in NYC. Mazal Tov, and besha’a tovah.

Do people really even iPads anymore? People use iPhones and Androids.

A cookbook. Has some hilarious effects.

Don’t look up only as far as Gamanit’s post, people – go one higher:

http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/yichud-gift-for-kallah#post-492943