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Would you say it is ok to text a teacher or rabbi who gave you their cell number?
When did it become ok for a teacher or rabbi to have a cell number?
The Talmid should first ask his Rebbi if it is okay.
Loyal Jew: When was it ever not okay?
real israeli: There is nothing wrong with asking the rebbe if it is okay or not okay.
real israeli, the Rebbi AND the Talmid don’t have Kosher phones?? In Israel???
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SiDi™
Ask the rebbe.
Why did he give the cell phone number? If texting seems to be too impersonal, try talking. Shailas cannot always be fully understood from words alone.
It probably depends on the Rebbe and on the Talmid. Choppy is right. There’s no reason not to ask.
okay, okay! I was referring more to your SN then the OP…
More like a joke.
SiDi™
There was a thread about this before. Many Rabbis nowadays encourage you to text them, not necessarily for actual shaylos but to set up appointments, see if they are available, etc.
42, I think you are talking about adults texting their Rav for shailos etc. I think real israeli is talking about a Bochur in Yeshiva (somewhere between grade 1 and 12) texting his Rebbe to schmozze or something like that. They are two totally different things.
Correct me if I’m wrong about any of this.
SiDi™
Okay, so the student wants to text his former teacher. (BTW, we are not talking about different genders, are we?) If they were close to each other and want to keep a kesher, I don’t think there is something wrong with that. But, if s/he is a current student, there should be some type of boundary and texting can get very ‘heimesh’.
SiDi™
Yes, a boundary. Every relationship needs some sort of boundary. But to keep a kesher with a Rebbe can be a very good thing. It doesn’t have to be through texting, but if that is the easiest method today, use it!
I Bump™ a Text Messaging thread for you. Click HERE.
And, one more time, I am assuming we are talking about a Male/Male / Female/Female Teacher/Student relationship, correct?
SiDi™
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Thanks!
I text my rebbi fairly frequently.
Hi real israeli,
I have text communication with some current and former students. The communication is a reflection no different than the classroom cordiality. Texts range from, “Good Shabbos”, to asking if I know of any summer jobs, keeping me up to date on what cities they are learning in at present, sending regards from someone, notifying me of a simcha, some are now in college and ask for some thoughts on assignments they are working on, even some good-natured sports rivalry conversation or updates on political issues; no different than a schmooze we may have after class. There is the same politeness and good tidings.
Every Rebbe is different, every student is different, and every relationship is different. We should trust that Rebbeim know what the proper boundaries for each student and each relationship are. Trying to establish generalizations only inhibits the teacher’s ability to connect with each student in a way that’s necessary for them.
In my opinion thats not ok. We once had a teacher and her rules were simple, no eating/drinking or opening/closing the window or texting…..she would then say do x,y,z page in your books and would open the window, eat a snack while texting….during class….
Hi real israeli,
I wanted to add that usually it starts when the students first have access to a cell phone either via their parents or their own. Usually they are excited and ask, “Oh, can I text you? I just got a phone….etc”
Depending on the chemistry/personality of the rebbe/teacher, in a way it’s good they want to try out their new phones texting responsible adults in the community.
It’s a good question, and you make a great point. I guess it’s a case by case basis. It’s similar to the various adult personalities I have studied with over the years. Some me I have studied with are more formal and keep it to study only, and others are formal during study, too, but may forward Jewish jokes or texts that are being forwarded with light-hearted information.
I guess if the students are excited about texting a teacher/rebbe, when they first get a phone, and it does not break down the boundary line of instructor and learner in the class, I guess it can be an extension, too, of a valuable teacher/rebbe rapport.
If that line breaks down, then the rebbe/teacher has to tighten things up and go back to basics and reestablish a more formal role with the student.
Even if the Rebbe/ Morah/Teacher/Rav say OK, please write out what you want to say and don’t use “text abbreviated language”. Speak in writing. Great not gr8, by the way and not btw, for you and not 4u……..
If the text is more than 160 characters, it’ll be sent as multiple texts. No biggie.
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