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Would you point it out te her?
Have her abused husband call the Shalom Task Force.
ya really, if this were the reverse ie. husband abusing wife, everyone here would tell her to call the cops. wife on husband- no biggy.
if you can, why not? You can at least broach it once, bringing it to her attention. Or if there’s a sibling closer to her who can better speak to her?
How is he being mistreated exactly?
Goq asks a good question. If your sib is 18 years older, maybe it is your perception that she is abusive. What is she doing that upsets you vis a vis her husband? If in fact she is being abusive, it does not to be addressed.
why does mistreating mean abusing??
if it will open her eyes, you definitely should. Some ppl will get defensive or upset though, just be prepared for that.
Why is it different because its a sibling ?
If there’s a good chance your words will be taken in the right way, you should point such a thing out to anyone. And if not, don’t take liberties because its a sibling.
I have a sibling who does something similar. I don’t think she wants to hear from me, so I shut up.
You need to THINK FIRST this is not your concern they have been married a long time and on some level it probably works, if u say something to your sister chances are she will resent it.
The best thing would be to “think first,” & not say anything. As a mature adult, your BI probably can figure out the right way to deal with it.
so he shouldnt call a task force? ok, my married sister has a husband who mistreats here. should i call sholom task force?
Toi – definitely. He should call a task force. And take his children and run. Keep her away from the kids. Then get a proection order against her.
TF especially in this case when there is such a disparity in your ages she will likely not listen to you at best and probably be very angry, stay away stay far away.
I’m very close to my sibs and it’s perfectly normal in my family for one of us to mussar the other when we feel it’s necessary. Or if we’re in the mood of fight. Whatever. The point is, I would DEFINITELY say something. Don’t care how old or young she is.
Its hard to tell you to not say anything to her, but the same way there is a mitzvah of ???? ????? there is also a mitvah to not say anything if you wont be listened to.
pba- No comment on the appropriate punishment for someone who mistreats their husband?
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