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I am moved to write this in response to the recent thread about texting on Shabbos which has terribly sadly and unbelievably become common in some (limited) circles. Hashem Yerachem!!! What have our generation come to when en masse you have young people ‘frum’ in all other respects, trampling on one of the most important Mitzvos we have, on one of the Aseres Hadibros.
As Jews who believe in the Torah – the ultimate guide to right and wrong – we HAVE to align our priorities with those of the Torah.
Both murder and chillul Shabbos are capital offences. Yet according to Chazal, the punishment meted out to someone who desecrates Shabbos – stoning – is more severe than that given to a murderer – death by the sword.
The outcry over the murder of Leiby Kletzky a’h is justified to the highest degree.
THE OUTCRY OVER CHILLUL SHABBOS BY OUR YOUTH SHOULD BE EQUAL IF NOT GREATER.
It is hard to appreciate this with our limited human perspective. But we must realise that any chilul Shabos including texting is an act of REBELLION against Hashem – tantamount to denying (ch’v) that He created the world. It is an act that stands diametrically opposed to the ENTIRE PURPOSE OF THIS WORLD – to bring out the Kvod Shomayim and Unity of our Creator.
Should we treat a mechallel Shabbos with at least the same contempt that we treat a murderer? If not, should we then treat a murderer with the same love we treat a mechallel Shabbos?
But we must realise that any chilul Shabos including texting is an act of REBELLION against Hashem – tantamount to denying (ch’v) that He created the world.
Not true. You’re describing every act of chillul Shabbos as one of a mumar l’hachis. I’d say that that’s not true — most cases of chillul Shabbos (including teens texting on Shabbos) is far more likely to be a case of a mumar l’tayavon, which is most definitely not a rebellion, nor a denial of His creation of the world.
The Wolf
Of course texting on shabbos is terrible but its not a capital offance, its an issur drabanan.
I do not disagree at all with the well-expressed emotion that is so evident in the OP’s post. OTB makes some very strong points. BUT… Chillul Shabbos, which most certainly is a rejection of Hashem as Creator, is STILL not a yehareig v’al yaavor aveira. Murder is. I think it is a little bit of hyperbole to say texting on Shabbos could be “worse than murder.” A person who is mechallel Shabbos can do teshuvah and turn his life around. All the teshuvah in the world however, will not bring back a murder victim. It is comparing apples and oranges.
with your strident tone and warnings of punishment, you hardly sound like the person who is going to convince our teens to stop this activity.
Go take a kiruv class. and then write another letter.
And what do you propose be done about it bec yelling and screaming won’t really be very effective
It is worse to kill than text on Shabbos.
If someone points a gun to your head and asks you to send a text, you can ask, Pass the phone
If someone points a gun to your head and asks you to kill someone, you are supposed to die.
A bit sarcastic way of saying you can be mechallel shabbos to save a life, but you cannot kill to save a life
i don’t understand how texting on shabbos can even become a discussion in the first place. how come we dont see coffer room threads about driving on shabbos, or carrying from a reshus hayachid to a reshus harabim on shabbos?
I am moved to write this
But do you think this is helpful? Do you really think the problem these kids have is nobody convinced them sufficiently that gehenom is really hot?
or carrying from a reshus hayachid to a reshus harabim on shabbos?
There are always Eruv Controversies
A person who is mechallel Shabbos can do teshuvah and turn his life around. All the teshuvah in the world however, will not bring back a murder victim. It is comparing apples and oranges.
Both a mechallel Shabbos and a murderer can do teshuva.
Actually, cheating your fellow is worse than both.
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I am appalled by the cheating by so called “frum jews” of both fellow yidden, non yidden and the government, and am making a public Machaa.
Do you really think the problem these kids have is nobody convinced them sufficiently that gehenom is really hot?
Unfortunately today too many folks don’t realize how hot gehenim in fact is. If we would stress more how bad the punishment (gehenim) for sin is, there are some people who otherwise would sin that would then refrain.
Without paskining here
One could also say that a texter us a Tinok sh-ain bo da’as (I think thats how you say it)
However a murderer knows exactly what they are doing most of the time (unless they are seriously insane like Hinkley) but most are not
Ive never heard Halacha call a murderer a Tinok sha-ain bo da’as
Unfortunately today too many folks don’t realize how hot gehenim in fact is. If we would stress more how bad the punishment (gehenim) for sin is, there are some people who otherwise would sin that would then refrain.
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It’s in the mussar seforim. (No, I don’t recall all of them offhand, but there are many.)
Englishman, If we would stress more how bad the punishment (gehenim) for sin is, there are some people who otherwise would sin that would then refrain.
People do things to satisfy needs, whether right or wrong, healthy or unhealthy, whether they’ll pay for it dearly later or not.
Clearly the punishment is a deterrent for many, even if not all.
Popa, I would add that Loshon Hara is even worse than all of the above, as the Gemara says that at the end of times Hashem will forgive those who transgressed the 3 big Chamuros- killing/arayos/avoda zara, but Hashem will not forgive those who spoke Loshon Hara randomly -“Uma Yisron L’baal Haloshon”.
Whoever messed up these teens in the first place, will get the ultimate punishment of all.
the bigger question is what is being taught in Yeshivas? Are the Rebbonim engaging? Do they inspire? Do they answer the students questions intelligently?
Unfortunately I’m afraid the answer is not really…If the teachers have no passion, then the students may not as well…
The kids probably say if all those around me are doing wrong, then how bad can it be to send out a text message on shabbos?
LMA: Not every baal-aveira was necessarily messed up by someone else. More likely than not they messed themselves up. Do you excuse Levi Aron as being messed up by someone else? Do you excuse thieves as being messed up by someone else?
BTW, using your above criteria you are saying that loshon hora is worse than murder.
oy vey kids these days~ “i don’t understand how texting on shabbos can even become a discussion in the first place.”
same here. :-O
This is not a Kiruv forum therefore my tone is totally justified.
Of course. But do you want to be justified or helpful?
pba, But do you want to be justified or helpful?
I agree! No one was ever forced/scolded/frightened/warned to do Mitzvos or abstain from Aveiros and then did so willingly.
Shilishi: I didn’t mean to infer that all children who text on Shabbos r”l are emotionally messed up. Many children are just not too inspired to keep Yiddishkeit. However, the many teens who are actually messed up emotionally, as a result of their parents/rabbaim abuse and humiliation, are definitely in the category of ‘Oi’nes’, and logically it would seem that the parents/rabbeim carry the ultimate responsibility for the child’s future actions, or they are at least responsible for the aveira of Ritzicha for emotionally killing this child for life.
I don’t think Levi Aron’s actions is comparable to teens being mechalel shabbos; someone doesn’t kill a child unless he has muderous instincts with perverted ta’avos which he desires to fulfill; however through abusive/humiliating parents a child can lose his whole desire for Yiddishkeit, making all mitzvos absolutely meaningless to him. would you go daven each day if the words in tefila have absolutely no emotional meaning to you at all?
And I was just qouting a Gemara regarding the severity of the issur of Loshon Hara; are you disagreeing with the Gemara?
Ok. That is fine. I guess I just got confused about your intent here.
I suppose my follow question is that you seem to assume that the kids who text on shabbos are really doing something so bad and it is what the gemara’s you reference are talking about.
I disagree. I think these kids have been misguided and mistreated, and are barely to blame for what they are doing, and it is not at all what the gemara’s are talking about.
You might wonder: how did it happen that suddenly we just have so many reshaim? The answer has to be that they really aren’t such reshaim. Because any other answer supposes there is a cause, and if there is a cause, then they simply are not that bad.
Hmmm, this one reminds me of the time when one of our (not so frum) teachers tried to convince us that Shabbos is holier than Yom Kippur!!
I understand now. You are asking why we do not have an emotional and visceral reaction to chillul shabbos like we do to murder. Perhaps not so much asking why, as bemoaning the fact that it is the case.
(As an aside, I have just as much understanding for the kids who hurt others as the ones who break shabbos. Kids who are unusually aggressive are probably being hurt by someone else. It is probably the easiest connection to make in the world of psychology.)
a story of a Gadol who came to Eretz Yisroel
he was known to not leave his house on Shabbos
when finally asked to explain he said that the first Shabbos in E’Y he saw someone smoking and he fainted.
the questioner stopped him and said, oh so thats why you dont leave the house on Shabbos?
he said no
its because the next Shabbos he again saw someone smoking…..and he didnt faint
I was going to say…the whole topic of gays getting so much freedom of expression can only be attributed to the fact that society in general has taken a much less stringent approach than was once accepted. In my grandparents time, such a vote as we had in NY last month would not even have been anyone’s nightmare yet. People become habituated after being exposed for a duration.
I was also shocked by the matter of fact question why texting is ok.. Like it’s a given! I know some people who have serious problems, i.e. depression etc. but they still don’t TEXT ON SHABBOS! Even if someone is “messed up” something very important is missing in circles where they are not afraid to violate such a basic in yiddishkeit. It means they don’t have any yiras shmayim/ i.e. Unfortunately today too many folks don’t realize how hot gehenim in fact is. If we would stress more how bad the punishment (gehenim) for sin is, there are some people who otherwise would sin that would then refrain…..
on the ball: Is that why Yom Kippur is called Shabbos Shabboson? Chilul Yom Kippur is not capital? Or is Misa Bidai Shomayim not as bad as Misas Beis Din?
On the ball – I’m sorry to say you are quite wrong!
The Rambam in Hilchos Rozeach says right after the Mishna of Kipa – (I’ll translate) “We only do this for killing people and not for other people whom have to be killed by Bais Din. If they are required to get killed by Bais Din -we kill them; if not, not.
Even though there are Aveiros which are more Chamor than killing, they don’t have in them the destruction of the world like killing.
Even Avodah Zorah and for sure not Arayos or Chillul Shabbos, aren’t like Shificas Domim (killing)! Because these Aveiros are Bein Odom L’mokom, but killing are from the Aveiros of Beim Odom L’chaveiro and anybody whom has this Aveirah in their hand is a Rosha Gomor, etc…”
By the word “Chamor”, I think the Rambam means worse punishment.
I can understand your frustration about texting, esp. if it is a Dorysah, but screaming Fire and Brimstone never brought anybody back to Yiddishkeit on a long term basis. The saying goes -“You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar”!
It means they don’t have any yiras shmayim/ i.e. Unfortunately today too many folks don’t realize how hot gehenim in fact is. If we would stress more how bad the punishment (gehenim) for sin is, there are some people who otherwise would sin that would then refrain…..
Could not agree with you more No One Special.
on the ball-
I think you are making a serious mistake, factually and practically.
First of all, I believe you are incorrect. Chazal say terrible things about lots of aveiros, it’s their way of giving mussar. Look at what they say about anger, nivul peh, lashon hara, and lots of other things. There is a very simple reason why they weren’t ma’arich very much about murder – people already appreciate how bad it is, but obviously it’s worse (Let’s start by mentioning that it’s one of the 3 chamuros and it’s one of the 7 mitzvos).
Secondly, even if you are correct, at the end of the day you cannot and will not ever change the fact that people are more sensitive to murder than to chillul shabbos. You’ll say – so what, it’s the truth! But the point is, when you tell people something that goes against their deepest feelings they will not take you seriously. I’m not saying not to criticize, go ahead and tell people they’re doing the wrong thing (as long as they actually are and you follow the guidelines of the halachos of tochacha)! But be careful that people shouldn’t look at you like you’re crazy, or they’ll never listen. And if you tell people that chillul shabbos (l’teyavon, and b’tzinah too in most cases which I would assume was not what chazal were referring to) is worse then the Kletzky murder, that is exactly what nearly everyone will feel, even the frumest of the frum, whether you like it or not.
Both a mechallel Shabbos and a murderer can do teshuva.”
But a murderer who does teshuvah still only gets a kapara with his death. The mechallel Shabbos who does teshuvah does not need to die in order to be forgiven.
I think on the ball was not trying to say that chilul shabbos is worse than the kletzky murder, but bring out the point, that well, even non-jews get shaken up by murder. A jew who cares about Hashem, needs to be pained also when he sees frum kids texting on shabbos. When you don’t have yiras shmayim and are mechalel shabbos, and just follow your impulses, you can chas vshalom eventually reach a point where you follow your impulse to murder too. The essential point is that yiras shmayim is the only thing that can ALWAYS keep you from any aveirah.
I was also shocked by the matter of fact question why texting is ok.. Like it’s a given!
No, it wasn’t a given, it was a troll.
And when frum kids are not keeping shabbos, who knows if it doesn’t chas vshalom bring tragedies on the world. Kol yisrael areivim ze l’ze
I would like to suggest something to put a lot of this into perspective and maybe make some peace between the two sides here.
There is a theory in psychology known as Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. It is typically represented by a pyramid with the lowest level being physical needs and the highest level being self actualization and the middle everything in between. Very basically, it says that a person has various levels of needs, and if a more basic need is not satisfied, a person will not even have the urge for something higher up on the pyramid. Thus, for example, if a person hasn’t eaten in three days, he won’t be feeling the urge to belong, etc.
If I were to ask, what is the most meaningful, the top of the pyramid or the bottom? Most people would say, of course, in truth the top is much more meaningful. Yet the top means nothing to a person who doesn’t have the bottom.
The Rambam explains in a few places that the purpose of the peace and all the good promised throughout Tanach is to one day create an environment for which man will be able to perfect himself and become close to Hashem. Similarly, all the rules of Bein Adam L’chaveiro are to create a functioning society. And the point of a functioning society? So that a person has the capability to work on perfecting himself. The functioning society is not the end, it is the means.
Looking back at Maslow’s pyramid in light of this understanding of mitzvos, one might say that in the world of the Torah Shabbos may very well be at the top of the pyramid. It is perhaps the ultimate demonstration of one’s belief in Hashem. Perhaps from a detached perspective it is more meaningful than anything else. But one cannot deny that murder is at the very bottom of the pyramid. No society can sustain itself if people can get away with murder. Therefore, practically speaking, we need to worry about that first. And until people are not deficient in hilchos bein adam l’chaveiro, we should hold off telling them off about Shabbos, because for them, since they are still closer to the bottom, not killing truly does have more meaning.
Anyway, those are my thoughts.
I would say that interenet addiction to immodest sites are just as chamur as texting on shabbos. Once a teen becomes addicted to this r”l, he may lose his feelings of yiras shamayim and then won’t feel a barrier to texting privately on shabbos.
on the ball – “On the contrary, your quote from the Rambam proves my point PRECISELY. Kipah is applied to murderers NOT BECAUSE OF THE GRAVITY OF THE SIN OVER OTHERS like Avodah Zorah, Shabos etc, but because it has the unique aspect of ‘destroying society’ warranting the immediate response of doing away with whatever is causing this.”
Ok, maybe it’s my fault you KRUMMED up the Rambam because I only quoted the first half. I just figured a Talmid Chochom like you who feels the necessity to get up on his soap box and give Mussar would surely look up the Rambam! The Rambam is just explaining why Kipa is used as opposed to other Aveiros and giving one reason why killing is worse. He later brings a Rayah that killing is worse than Avodah Zorah. This is why I said the Rambam when he says “Chamor”, must mean in Onesh only!
“My point is that people identifying with the Yeshivah/Torah orientated outlook should be crying and at least internally protesting at what’s going on with our kids as much as they would in response to murder.”
I understood your point the first time. But unfortunately, it’s based on a False premise. The Rambam says Klorr that Killing is worse than Chillul Shabbos!
Who are you to argue on the Rambam just to make a point?
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