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August 1, 2011 3:43 pm at 3:43 pm #598346WIYMember
Why is it that everyone is busy doing things Liluy Nishmas Leiby A”h or other niftarim, yet they wouldn’t be bothered to do things Liluy their own Neshama.
What if Leiby wasn’t Niftar? Don’t you have your own Neshama that needs an Aliyah? Why do we wait for someone to die to do something for their Neshama, what about our own Neshama?
Don’t wait to brae niftar so someone can do something for your Neshama, use your life to be Maaleh your Neshama as much as possible. Let’s use our brains and GET the point. When we learn or do mitzvos for a Niftar it is because they can no longer do mitzvos. We are ALIVE. Let’s use that opportunity as much as possible and care about our Neshamahs!
August 1, 2011 4:45 pm at 4:45 pm #793349maskingtapeMemberwell said WIY, not a stupid question at all.
August 1, 2011 4:57 pm at 4:57 pm #793350☕️coffee addictParticipantI think the reason is because as shlomo hamelech said,
it’s better to be alive than dead b/c those alive can still do mitzvos, so the person thinks he’s not going to die any time soon so i can always do it later (It’s sort of like the paper that’s due on a certain date and you don’t start it until the night before) but regarding a niftar l’iluy nishmas there is a time frame so that gives him an extra motivation
I hope this helps
August 1, 2011 4:59 pm at 4:59 pm #793351cofeefanMemberwow what a power statement. thank you for posting this.
August 1, 2011 5:32 pm at 5:32 pm #793352PeerimsameachParticipantI just chouped major chizuk from this. Thank you!
August 1, 2011 5:41 pm at 5:41 pm #793353mikehall12382MemberI think when we do something Liluy Nishmas, we are in fact also working to improve our Neshamas…
If you only wait for terrible things to happen to work on yourselves…then that is the issue..
August 1, 2011 5:41 pm at 5:41 pm #793354oomisParticipantcoffee addict has it right. And while we often don’t truly think about our own neshamas, when we think of someone we love who has died, or chalilah v’chas a child who has died horrifically, it spurs us on to become more self-reflective to improve ourselves in their zechus.
August 1, 2011 7:04 pm at 7:04 pm #793355WolfishMusingsParticipantIt’s not a stupid question. Sometimes people need an external motivation to do something. Someone’s passing provides them with that motivation.
The Wolf
August 1, 2011 7:05 pm at 7:05 pm #793356RavKahaneTzadakMemberSometimes we need a kick in the pants, its unfortunate but we don’t realize until something terrible happens.
August 1, 2011 7:23 pm at 7:23 pm #793357Shticky GuyParticipantWell Informed what an amazing chizuk! There’s nothing in the OP that is not absolutely obvious but how I needed that slap in the face to sit up and think! Thank you.
I think I should start a new website for myself eg learnformyownneshama.com where I should choose many things to learn for my own neshama. I hope to finish them by ?? ??? ??? ???? ????? as the mishna says in ???? ????.
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(thanx 95)
August 2, 2011 11:43 am at 11:43 am #793358on the ballParticipantYes people should be fighting to daven at the Amud even when they are not aveilim.
August 2, 2011 6:45 pm at 6:45 pm #793360WIYMemberOn the ball
If you are on the ball how did you manage to miss the point?
August 2, 2011 7:10 pm at 7:10 pm #793361aries2756ParticipantThat is not a stupid question at all, it is a very smart question. People need a wake up call and inevitably feel better doing things for others than just doing things or doing things for themselves.
August 2, 2011 10:08 pm at 10:08 pm #793363WIYMemberAries2756
Or maybe we forget that we have the power to help ourselves! If we can save a Neshama that is no longer here we certainly can save our own Neshama and the Neshamos of others who are alive!
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