Sheva Brachot and DJs

<emMy aunt is negotiating with other relatives to make a sheva brachot for a young couple. The other party wants to hire a JD and have it in a restaurant. They claim many families hire JDs for sheva brachot. Is this the new normal? or is having a JD overly extravagant?

I knew the legal job market was bad. But I didn’t know they were working at sheva brachos.

When someone asked a famous rav what his minhag was regarding walking the kallah down (either with both her parents or with both the mothers), he answered that his minhag is whatever the other side wants! Ohev shalom v’rodef shalom!

After reading about all the older singles thread, focus on the fact that they found each other! (And tell the DJ to lower the volume.)

Nu, so they want to hire a DJ. Are they asking her to pay for something she feel is unnecessary? If they will take on the expense, let them be. I feel she is well within her rights as a hostess to demand that the DJ not say, play or do anything she deems inappropriate.

I’m not sure that’s its so “normal” to “negotiate” with the other relatives to make sheva brachos. What does it mean negotiate? He who comes up with the most outrageous and/or lavish idea, gets to host? What will make the chassan and kallah happy? If negotiations break down, will there be no sheva brachos that day (which is ok too)? Lastly, why is it more “normal” to make a sheva brachos in a restaurant than it is to have a DJ?

I thought there was some negotiation involved. Your aunt can say, you want a DJ, hire a DJ and pay for it. You want it in a restaurant, go ahead, pay for it. Thats my final offer.