The Importance of Never Missing Tefillin

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  • #597718
    Englishman
    Member

    Since your Bar Mitzvah, did you ever miss an entire day of wearing Tefilin (other than Shabbos and Yom Tov)?

    #782098
    oomis
    Participant

    Boy, did I ever misread this one. I thought you were asking if (we ladies) miss the fact that we do not wear tefillin. To which I was about to reply, I have enough to keep me busy with the mitzvos Hashem already gave me, thanks.

    #782099
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    Yes.

    #782100
    Englishman
    Member

    If you started wearing Tefilin at a later age than Bar Mitzvah (e.g. B.T.), then replace Bar Mitzvah with the date you started wearing Tefilin as it pertains to the question.

    #782101
    goody613
    Member

    no bli ayin hara

    #782102
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    I appreciate your sensitivity, Englishman, but my answer is still yes.

    #782103
    goody613
    Member

    englishman-what about you?

    #782104
    dunno
    Member

    oomis

    Me too!!

    #782105
    Shticky Guy
    Participant

    To miss putting on tefillin is a bittul mitzvas asei, r”l. This carries a chiyuv korban!

    If you’ve gotten yourself into a rut and missed, then change from TODAY! If you find it difficult to go to shul then at least put on at home and at least say the minimum with them on eg maybe just shema? Not paskening. Check with your LOR. And just remember: you are not doing Hashem the favor; its the other way round!

    #782106
    Ad Dilo Yada
    Participant

    nope never

    #782107
    newhere
    Participant

    “To miss putting on tefillin is a bittul mitzvas asei, r”l. This carries a chiyuv korban!” There’s no chiyuv to bring a korban for a bittual aseh. One should bring an olah, but it is definitely not a chiyuv. Also, who says missing tefillin one day is a bittul aseh, where does it say there’s a chiyuv to wear tefflin daily?

    #782108
    bombmaniac
    Participant

    id like to think im not a poshea yisrael b’gufo so no…ive never missed t’fillin. someone once told me that they “just didnt have a chance sometimes” someone seemingly frum…im sorry but if you missed tefillin because you “didnt have a chance” then youve got serious problems. it was quite difficult for me to hold my tongue.

    #782109
    HaLeiVi
    Participant

    I’m not sure about why such a survey would be so much fun, but you aren’t really supposed to publicize a misdeed. It is a Chilul Hashem.

    #782111
    newhere
    Participant

    bobmaniac- Look up the gemara, a poshea yisroel bigufo is someone who never puts on tefillin, not someone who misses a day.

    #782112
    zahavasdad
    Participant

    just didnt have a chance sometimes

    What if the persons wife was in the hospital (say after giving birth) and he was home with the rest of the kids . He had to play “Mr Mom” for a few days while his wife was in the hospital (Lets say it was December when days are short)

    He has to wake up his kids feed them send them off to school . Take care of the kids who are too young for school. make Lunch for the ones at home. Make Dinner for the other ones and by the time he could catch his breath it was dark out

    #782113

    there are cases where he is an onus, certainly, in a coma, undergoing surgery, etc.

    your scenario is not a case of onus

    did he eat during the day?

    did he go to the bathroom?

    putting on Tefillin, if necessary, can take about 2 minutes.

    its not just a nice thing to do if you get a chance.

    #782114
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    Agreed, Mod. It’s more important than that. In my case, for the record, it was a special circumstance.

    #782115

    i dont see anything good coming out of this. if you would care to explain englishman why you started this thread, otherwise it will join the closed world

    #782116
    adorable
    Participant

    why do you wanna close it? its just a harmless discussion.

    #782117

    because, oh ubiquitous and questioning one, i have divined with my super moderation sense that there is a lot of potential for a not nice discussion, which i would like to avoid if there is no positive purpose.

    for starters its not nice to ask strangers if any of them have commited an aveira. would you take such a poll in a group of strangers?

    #782118
    MiddlePath
    Participant

    Well, Mod, there is a distinction between an aveira that was done passively, without action (Missing tefilin) and actively. I wouldn’t take a poll about an actively transgressed aveira, but a passive aveira, if for some reason I was curious about, I might take a poll on.

    #782119

    thats why i didnt close it yet

    #782120
    jewish source
    Participant

    And how many people RCHMN’L think they are putting on Tefilin everyday when in fact their tefilin are posul or they are just not putting it on correctly something I see everyday on the Shel Yad when you pull the retzua if your shirt gets stuck or if the retzua is turned upside down lechoira your not Yotzai tefilin.

    #782121
    adorable
    Participant

    for starters its not nice to ask strangers if any of them have commited an aveira. would you take such a poll in a group of strangers?

    mod- you are right! again- are you ever going to be wrong?!?!?)

    #782122

    Shel Yad? oy and i see so many people with the Shel Rosh in a position that is maakav the Mitzvah.

    #782123

    am i ever wrong?

    ask my wife.

    #782124
    jewish source
    Participant

    I would say 90% of the oilam is not carful about the shel yad issue.

    #782125

    depends on the olam i suppose

    my experience is very different

    i would say 10% are not careful with the SY, 40% are not careful with the SR.

    why dont you start a thread on this?

    #782126
    adorable
    Participant

    so you can have another thread to close?

    #782127
    twisted
    Participant

    There were many mornings I missed due to digestive mishaps where i recovered by mincha time, and my last and only encounter with the flue was 9 days in winter 95 in which to me, there was no night or day, I barely kept myself hydrated, and was basically as onus as i”ve ever been bar anesthesia.

    #782128

    how in the world are you aware of people that have a bit of their shirt under the maavarta, or a retzua that is twisted. nobody wears a jacket or Talis or puts their shirt over it?

    90%! very hard to believe, what kind of olam are you talking about?

    #782129
    charliehall
    Participant

    not since i became frum — but there were a few days when i put them on in the afternoon when i was so sick that i couldn’t get out of bed in the morning

    #782130
    Englishman
    Member

    Hi –

    My intended discussion was to bring awareness as to the vital importance of not missing even a single day of Tefilin. (Hence I placed it in the Inspiration/Mussar category.) Apologies for the phrasing of the title/op posing it as a question. I wasn’t sufficiently creative to better phrase it as to its intent, but do consider that the purpose of this exercise.

    #782131

    great

    thank you

    well fix the title

    #782132

    i like the way you write

    are you from england?

    (my super moderator sense at work again)

    #782133
    jewish source
    Participant

    Moderator-80

    I’m a Sofer So its my tendency to watch people as they put on their teffilin.As a Sofer I am more aware of these issues.

    There is always the question should I bother him should I tell him that his Tefillin are crooked or his Retzua is upside down or its on top of his shirt. I try to let the YT prevail and I help a Friend.

    #782134
    zaidy78
    Participant

    I once heard from a Rosh Yeshiva that no where in the Torah does it say that you have to wear them everyday. Al pi Torah, a person is soppose to where tiffilin everyday all day, which we don’t do today for a number of valid reasons. Of course, whenever he wears it he gets the mitzva, so by wearing them the next day longer, he gets the mitzva longer.

    I also once heard from R’ Amnon Yitzchok (I think) that if someone missed many years of Teffilin (baal teshuva) one thing that he can do, is to get others to do the mitzva. So that on a single day he can have the zchus of putting on teffilin more than once.

    #782135
    bombmaniac
    Participant

    “What if the persons wife was in the hospital (say after giving birth) and he was home with the rest of the kids . He had to play “Mr Mom” for a few days while his wife was in the hospital (Lets say it was December when days are short)

    He has to wake up his kids feed them send them off to school . Take care of the kids who are too young for school. make Lunch for the ones at home. Make Dinner for the other ones and by the time he could catch his breath it was dark out”

    i honestly dont care. make time. 5 minutes even. just do it. aside from the fact that i KNOW the guy who told me that was just pashut negligent.

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