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HaGaon Rav Chaim Stein, Shlita, put out the directive that we are to be Mispallel for women who need a Shidduch. In response to his stirring request (that he made during a Hesped for his son Z”L), I wrote a “prayer” to try to stir up our emotions in Tefilla for those who need a Shidduch. I realize I may take heat from CR responders asking how I dare create new prayers; for the better or worse, here is my contribution:
Master of the World, please see the suffering of those having difficulties finding a Shidduch
Desperately trying to find their way in a dismal maze of unending questions, robbing them of happiness
Only to have them shattered when everything sadly slipped away as sand through desperate fingertips
Feelings of unworthiness haunt their peace of mind
Each time they go to Shul with heavy hearts, hoping that this time their desperate yearning
Will pour out as water from their soul in front of Your Throne of Mercy
And You will consider their tears as a perfect Kurban brought on Your Mizbeach
Ribbono Shel Olam, how many times can they go on, feeling that their prayers are so lacking and inconsequential
Look at how much purity they carry themselves throughout all their youthful years
Even while living in a world where everything sacred is cast aside
That You will cherish and thus, change Your decree for them to find their proper Shidduch
To transmit the fear of Heaven and love of Torah and Mitzvos to the next generation
Remember them in the Zechus of our Avos and Imahos HaKedoshim
Blessed and filled with Kedushah and Simcha from Your loving Hashgochoh
May it be Your will that our few words should cause the fate of these singles to be brought before You in a favorable light,
Nothing is to hard for You to do; You can bring their Yeshuah in a moment
So we are in Your hands – the people we meet and their feelings for us are all in Your control
Please speedily unite these suffering people with their intended Shidduch
Silent- That was written so eloquently. Its beautifull how you care so much about your fellow Yiddin in need. Hatzlachah Rabbah, keep up your efforts- I know I could use your Tefillos.
Silent- That is a beautiful and heartfelt Tefillah. Talking to Hashem from your heart, in your own words, is also Tefillah.
Amen. Very well said
😀 Zuberman! 😀
that’s beautiful.
“I realize I may take heat from CR responders asking how I dare create new prayers;”
The gemarah in Brachos says that only in the middle of Semonah Esrei is one not alowed to add anything but afterwards one can add even as long as the Vidu of Yom Kipur. So there you go.
Silent- I am sitting here and crying from your Tefillah. Only someone who is in it can truly understand. No one who is married ( they forget very quickly what is was like to be single) can possibly remember how hard it is to be single and feel so empty. Thank you again and may Hashem send you a yeshuva fast
Adorable,
Please don’t think that everyone who gets married forgets so quickly. The harder it was and the longer it took, the less likely it is to forget. Remembering how painful and lonely it was to be an older single, is a wonderful impetus to work on your marriage. And it does affect our tefillos for single people.
May we hear besuros tovos bekarov
I understand that they might not forget so fast but some of them seem to forget the second they get engaged and that makes it hard for the single ones. They also felt lonely and they also felt sad but they dont remember how sad and how lonely it is.
Hopefully the speeches that the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation hosted about giving information by Shidduchim will help more singles get engaged b’karov to their bashert
you’re right, adorable – but why is that bad? it means that you too will forget this horrible pain! one day it will be over!!!!!
I know it will be over I wish I would be able to remember it for those who are still around when I get married- younger friends who will be going through it a little later than me. I don’t want to apathetic to their pain. i want to be the best I can be in this stage in life and I just find it hard.
Whoa! In the zechus of your beautiful heartfelt words, may you and all of klal Yisrael who are not married, find your zivugim bimheira.
In addition to Davening, the Klal has to do Hishtadlus and work on Shidduchim for others, as much as is humanly possible. I personally know singles whose frumkeit is spiraling downwards because they are single and disgusted with being forgotten by others in the frum community. It’s as important as Kiruv.
thank you for your words. Of course I cannot imagine the pain that you are going through and each person is different but you know what you are missing since its soemthing that you used to have and dont anymore. On the other hand, us singles who were never married dont know what we are missing although we are sad and lonely.
are you from Cleveland?
Silent, I fully agree wih you – please give us tips
Trust me, if I had answers I wouldnt be hiding or saving them. I do know that there are people who are MUCH smarter and more powerful than I am, and can and should do better to ameliorate the terribble Tzar being suffered by older singles looking for a Shidduch. Davening is very important and therapeutic, but not enough.
there are no tricks there are no shortcuts. just daven and be the best that you can be! Hashem sees everything you do and all the effort that you put in and your yeshua will come. so will everyone else’s
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