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mods- did you block him forever? miss his posts here!
Why was he blocked? And I did notice that too…
I want to say something but want to know if it would be l”h to speak about someone even if I don’t know him irl. I know, probably a stupid question to ask and I apologize for that.
I don’t really know the halachos of l”h too well
Just in general about everybody on here, sometimes some comments are made which makes you realise all over again “hey, everybody comes from somewhere!” In a way it’s harder, in a way easier on a (mostly?) anon forum.. i esp noticed it with “Health”, his comments are mostly quite negative but then when i saw a comment posted it made me think along the lines of maybe he’s reflecting his feelings on here and yeah, even (/esp!) on anon forum you can never judge anybody. Whatever!
Health, if you are reading this (and also if not!) – i wish for you the very best.
One obtains kavod by giving kavod to others (paraphrased from Pirkei Avos).
I notice in general that some posters aren’t just pessimistic, but “speak” in a way as if others are “shmattes”, lauding it over them as if no one else knows what they are talking about.
Do unto others as you would like others do unto you (paraphrased, ibid)
There are other posters who consistently make me laugh & smile at the screen…
yes, but as health admitted on another thread – some people are not born with social wisdom. it’s a very difficult life for some who are born with mathematic, scientific smartness but not emotional smartness. we are all born with different strengths. i feel that health should be allowed on here – i truly don’t believe he ever meant to be hurtful to others. i know people like him, and their whole self-worth is their brains, so if they feel threatened that they’re not smarter than others, it’s like someone’s taking away their oxygen, so they’ll fight back as we would if we couldn’t breathe.
i think the CR is a great place for Health to get support, and to gently learn when it is that he is being hurtful.
i truly believe health is a very nice guy who needs our support and respect; and i strongly think he should be allowed back on.
and i like what he says – though i don’t always agree with him.
Thanks!
Health, where are you? Please come back!
am yisrael chai:
There are other posters who consistently make me laugh & smile at the screen…
And they are…
niiiice
He probably doesn’t know he’s unblocked.
Emotional smartness can be learned. There are books and coaches who could help. Just one needs a sincere desire to learn the skill and the wish not to hurt others, even if it’s supposed to make oneself feel better.
Looking forward to it.
ZK,
There are quite a few posters with a wonderful sense of humor who consistently make me laugh. I just don’t want to unintentionally leave anyone out if I start listing them.
To all those above who helped me get Unblocked, thanks! I doubt they would have done it without your input.
Glad to have ya back.
Welcome back.
welcome back
Thanks to all.
BY – “i know people like him, and their whole self-worth is their brains, so if they feel threatened that they’re not smarter than others, it’s like someone’s taking away their oxygen, so they’ll fight back as we would if we couldn’t breathe.”
Very clever insight, but not me! I’ll try to explain, but not too deeply, so I don’t get blocked again. What bothers me is when people aren’t honest. This gets my goat. I can’t stand dishonesty, whether it’s directed at me, someone else or something else. I sometimes am brutally honest and some can be offended by this. I don’t sugar coat a lot of things I say or post. But I come here to help people, not to hurt them.
health,
One’s words can be both honest and not hurtful.
It is not a stira and they are not mutually exclusive.
This skill can be learned.
health – thanks for clarifying. so truth is very important to you.
problem is that some people may think that the truth is in alternative medicine or something else that you (i’m guessing) would knock and call it superstition. problem with the medical field, is that there is still so much unknown; and what the research shows, keeps changing.
anyways, don’t underestimate us, folks, in the cr. we can see that you’re bringing the traditional medical answers and that some others are at times bringing non-traditional answers or are just googling the answers and don’t really know what they’re talking about.
that’s the same argument people have with asking shailos on the CR. answer is to go to own doctor (and to ask own LOR halachic questions). here, can get good answers some times, and other times pure “fudge”.
But I come here to help people, not to hurt them.
health, that has always been very obvious to me, and i truly do find your answers very helpful.
BY – “problem is that some people may think that the truth is in alternative medicine or something else that you (i’m guessing) would knock and call it superstition.”
Please don’t make assumptions about me. As a matter of fact I do believe in alternative medicine secondary to mainstream, if it makes sense as opposed to homeopathy (which makes no sense to me). The honesty I was refering to wasn’t about medicine per se.
Adorable – I can’t answer that because it would reveal too much about me. Suffice it to say I’ve trained in a few or many different areas in mainstream medicine.
Health
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Please don’t make assumptions about me. As a matter of fact I do believe in alternative medicine secondary to mainstream, if it makes sense as opposed to homeopathy (which makes no sense to me). The honesty I was refering to wasn’t about medicine per se.
ok. fair enough. no more making assumptions. sorry. 🙂
anyways, in my ignorance, i was putting alternative medicine together with homeopathy. is reflexology, chiropracter, and such alternative medicine? and dealing with herbs, aromatherapy, and such homeopathy?
BY – Homeopathy is a form of alternative medicine. So are the others and there is a lot more. Too many to list here. I believe in some forms of alternative medicine, not all. I’m sure you don’t believe in faith healing, unless the faith is Judaism. But there are those that do believe in it and will try going to those faiths even if it’s not their own personal faith. When it comes to alternative medicine, I’m not like the firm believers that it will work no matter what. I think that a lot of it -is nothing wrong to try it. It might work, it might not. But when it comes to regular medicine, I believe most of the time it will work (remember I said most).
health- i am not at all saying that you should or should not believe in them. (i’m not even sure if i do, or rather depends on what and who is doing it.)
anyways, i was just making wrong assumptions about you – i just assumed that that was part of the problem in other thread. sorry.
BY – Apology accepted. I can’t tell you what went on for obvious reasons. And you will have a very hard time figuring it out because it was deleted. I think we should all stick to the subject of the posts and not try to judge up or figure out the posters themselves.
okay. 🙂
Better late than never. Health, welcome back!
ZeesKite
Because Mommy said so!!!!
am yisrael chai:
“There are other posters who consistently make me laugh & smile at the screen…”
And they are…
I’m not AYC but if it makes you feel any better, you would make my list.
kapusta-
Thanks!
Hey, so Health isn’t Joseph after all, or did you perhaps make some backroom deal?
HaLeiVi
HaLeiVi is Supposedly Joseph!
“Hey, so Health isn’t Joseph after all, or did you perhaps make some backroom deal?”
Joe/HaLeiVi, can I ask you a question -where did anyone on this topic ever accuse me of being you? Stop fantazing and realize you are who you are. People might respect you if you didn’t email them and you posted under One SN. I’m not a shrink, but a lot of what you do is obviously from a very low esteem. Try to work on it or go to s/o to help you.
Brius is not gone BH, but by the time the 2016 elections roll around, parnosse may be gone!
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