Eclipse,
In the thread you refer to (I very well might be wrong; many posts were deleted), it seemed to me that the poster you refer to made general observations which did not fit your personal story. As far as I read it, he only got personal after you got personal. I’m not judging you; you’ve gone through a horrible experience and are to be admired for trying to make the best out of it as you can, but I think this “disagreement” came about through a misunderstanding.
Again, I may be wrong (correct me if so) because I may have missed some posts there.