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My mother’s A’H yartzeit is coming up and I have never fasted before for it but am now thinking about it. Just curious does anyone else fast, what other customs do you do?
Generally Litvish fast because the Mogen Avraham says to fast. Many Chassishe don’t and give a Lchayim so people can make Brachos liluy nishmas.
I’m not so sure fasting is recommended in our day. People make a siyum, and speak about the nifteres. If someone is inspired by hearing about her meritious deeds and decides to emulate her, it brings an aliyah to her neshama. Any acts of rightiousness that you do having in mind that you are inspired by your Mother A”H is a big zchus for her. May the neshama have an aliya and may we be zoche to umacha H-shem dimah meyal kol ponim.
is it in nissan? because i think that you may want to check if you are allowed to fast.
jewishmourningguide.com/yahrzeit/yahrzeit-outside-shul/
yahrtzeit candle
fast (but say it’s only for this year)
give tzedaka-
try to have as many siyumim as possible
give ‘tikkun’ (whiskey,orange juice, coffee cake, rugelach)
get inspired to do teshuva in the niftar’s zchus.
Sefer Yesodei Semachos says that one should fast between amud hashachar and nightfall, the note on which gives the makor as the Rama, who brings it from earlier sources (Yoreh Deah Siman 402, halacha yud beis).
Yes, people who follow the Rama fast.
IIRC the mechaber brings it too.
My Parents never fasted, my in-laws never fasted. So WE don’t fast.
On the topic of yarzeits, do people refrain from going to a simcha if it falls out on a parent’s yarzeit?
my father’s yarzeit is on Asara B’teves – already a fast day. My mother’s is not on a fast day. The first few years I did try to fast on those days, but then it got hard, so I don’t. I like the idea of making a kiddush/siyum and taking on mitzvos as an aliyah for the neshama.
Do something special that you know would bring Nachas and would be a zechus for your mother A”H
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