Although many people like and stick up for the Mitzva of Chessed, it is one of many. In fact, if you are busy with another Mitzva you are Pattur from Tzeddaka.
Besides, are you saying that instead of starting a thread about Tznius, we have to start another thread about “How should I do Chessed”?
Tznius is a necessary element in Hashroas Hashchina. Esav kept the Mitzva of honoring his father, because it made sense to him. That’s what it sounds like, to me, when people complain every time a Bein Adam Lamakom issue is brought up.