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my first OP thread! .. my husband just brought me home food from a bris.. challah, bagel, lox, sable, tuna salad, cookies & cake. I’m stuffed from eating just a little of it. what’s your feedback on taking home food from a bris? just wondering….
taking home things like bagels and cake is expected an fine
its a very big mitzvah to eat food that was served from a bris… so eat every thing up enjoy it and feel holy(while you eat).by the dont forget to bentch afterwards.
What’s wrong?! People do it all the time………… 🙂
Ejoy it!
Seudas Mitzvah
I’ve heard that even eating the food from a bris elsewhere is considered participating in a seudas mitzvah. Many caterers provide bags for take-home. Of course, one should be considerate and not take food home if there won’t be enough for the people who stayed.
Whether or not it was a legitimate practice when it started, it is now expected (and has been for quite a while) that people will take food home from a bris.
I would think that as long as you are considerate of others (as Daas Yochid pointed out above) it’s not a problem (provided, of course, that the ba’alei simcha haven’t said otherwise).
The Wolf
im confused what your question is- you mention that you’re stuffed, are you asking our opinion if you ate too much?
lol, all kidding aside, once the seuda is over, its perfectly fine to take food home, in fact the hosts usually expect and encourage it by having the caterer provide silver foil, paper bags etc. then they dont have to deal with all the leftovers. especially at a bris when people like to pack things up to take to work for lunch. it would be nice to wait until towards the end once everyone is done eating to be sure there is enough for all the guests…but otherwise, why not?
I like bris food. I wish I could go to a bris every day and leave before the speeches. Maybe I’ll become a mohel.
Which reminds me, my friend is a mohel, and once was at a bris his father was doing (his father is also a mohel), and they both made a bagel sandwich, whereupon the father pulled out two diapers for them to wrap the sandwiches in.
popa, you gave me a good laugh.
PBA that is hilarious!!!!!!!!!
Always here-enjoy! b’tayavon! at brissim its expected esp since u need to get home or to work etc.
Ladies who bring bags with them to wedding or auctions…thats just plain and simple wrong and gross too!
A kiddish is different though. When I was little I would always bring something home for my mom because she couldnt make it. I knew what she liked and always made sure to get it.
always, ONE bagel with whatever inside is expected. One -tow danishes to add – fine. Hugh amount from a Bris, unless you are sister/mother of Baal Hasimcha is NOT appropriate.
From other Simchas – Comeon, are you a member of Tomchei Shabbos?
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enjoy the food. its a simcha. lots of pple anyways do not want to take home the leftovers.
its a mitzvah. a bris is the only place u always see tons of silver foil on the table with the food. they expect u to take home food. u dont see silver foil by weddings, bar mitzvahs, vorts… cuz over there its not understood tht u take home food, but by a bris, it is expected.
Why do you think the foil and paper bags are put out at a bris?
The sefarim say it is an even bigger mitzva to take food home from a Chinese Auction. It is based on hidden kabbalistic reasons.
What does happen with all the leftovers from simchas? I think, in the case of a bris, that many times people have to leave to get to work, and therefore, take along the bagel sandwich. As for a chasuna? I don’t know – we took home food after a son’s Bar Mitzvah, but forgot to after other simchas. Hopefully, it’s going to Tomchai Shabbos, Masabia, or some other worthwhile cause, and not straight into the garbage.
I’ve been to many kiddushim and simchos where certain rude people grabbed half the food in the first 5 minutes and ran home with it leavng many of the guests hungry. It can be mamash gezel to take home food from a simcha etc.
We just made a bris two weeks ago for our grandson, and I sincerely hope people took food home with them and enjoyed it gesunterheit! That doesn’t mean you bring along a bucket and fill it up, but a sandwich or two and some nosherei is certainly reasonable.
Hopefully, it’s going to Tomchai Shabbos, Masabia, or some other worthwhile cause, and not straight into the garbage.
Or possibly, the ba’alei simcha take some of it home too and eat for a few days.
The Wolf
Oomis,
Mazel Tov, may you have much nachas!
hello99 is correct.
Unless one is given permission from the ba’al hasimcha, it is stealing.
shlomozalman,
I don’t understand hello99’s comment the way you do; I think he meant that excessive food grabbing, leaving nothing for the guests who sit down, is gezel. Not that one is alaways required to ask the baal simcha.
deiyezooger: would you agree that it is a bigger mitzvah if the food isn’t that good? (And by the way, I have never had bad food at a bris.)
The first time I saw this practice I got very upset. By now, I’m used to it. My pet peeve is -you supposedly want to partake in the simcha, but right after the actual Bris you are running out. It wouldn’t bother me so much if a only a few did it, but I’ve seen most of the people there doing it, barely leaving a Minyan. IMO, the food at the Bris is for people who are going to stay for the Seudah, not for anyone else. If you don’t have the time to stay, either because of work, kollel or whatever, why come in the first place? The Baal Simcha prepares food for how many people plan on being at the Seudah, he doesn’t want to pay for food for a hundred, when actually only ten end up staying. Again, if only a few a people didn’t stay and took food with them, I don’t think this is wrong. But unfortunately nowadays, the trend I’ve seen is most people don’t stay, even when most of the crowd are Yungerleit! How do I know? Because when I go to a bris, I try my utmost to stay to the end.
thank G-d i have given many brissim. people have to go to work, everyone knows this and expects most men to leave before or shortly after the Seudah begins, either to get to work or take their kids to school or help their wife with the kids or whatever. i was more than happy to provide food for these people, and to bring home food to their spouses that couldnt come. everyone does this and everyone expects this, thats just the facts. i didnt expect everyone to change their entire lifestyle for that morning just so i could enjoy their company at MY seudah.
If you don’t have the time to stay, either because of work, kollel or whatever, why come in the first place?
i am very grateful to everyone that comes, giving up their important time in the morning. i would hope no one would ever say that they wont come at all because they cant stay for part or all of the Seudah.
I remember as a kid seeing the famous mohel R’ Zimmerman wrapping up a bagel to take home to his wife. I asked him about it , & he said he takes home something from every bris he goes to
The Baal Simcha prepares food for how many people plan on being at the Seudah, he doesn’t want to pay for food for a hundred, when actually only ten end up staying.
those arent the intentions of any baal simcha i have ever known. they have all been very gracious and understanding, especially since they have been on the other side many times.
Mod -80- You’re probably right with people of means, but a lot of people don’t have extra money to give out to people who aren’t coming to the meal. A lot of people would rather save the money than supply a good breakfast for someone who can’t stay. Just a different perspective than all the above posters.
no im not talking about people of means.
your perspective is not “different”.
it is clearly the perspective of someone who has never been in that position or involved with other in preparing a Bris.
and is just guessing based on a complete lack of knowledge.
i dont expect you to say, oh i didnt realize that is the intention of Baalei Brissim, interesting, thank you everyone for informing me.
no i certainly dont expect you to say anything like that at all.
At the two brissim we made, we asked the caterer to bring cut foil for people to take along. We figured if people were coming to the bris, they may not have time to have breakfast before running to work.
Oomis,
Mazel Tov, may you have much nachas! “
Thanks so much. B”H I do!!!!!
the gemara in pesachim 113: says that who doesnt eat from a seudas mitzvah is considered in cheirem from shamayim. Tosfos expalains that it talking about a seudas bris since one who eats from a seudas bris is saved from the Dina Shel Gehenom (judgement of pergatory) the Rama in Hilchos milah says therefore one who doesnt eat from a seudah of a bris is considered in a “cheirem” from Shamayim ( which is one of the reasons why we don’t specifically invite people to a bris)According to Harav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach taking food from the bris and eating it elsewhere is still considered eating form the bris while his Mechutan Harav Yosef Shalom Eliashiv opines that once the food is taken from the place of the bris it is no longer considered as part of the bris meal.
Moderator-80/Mr. 80- “your perspective is not “different”.
it is clearly the perspective of someone who has never been in that position or involved with other in preparing a Bris.
and is just guessing based on a complete lack of knowledge.”
I hope you don’t practice medicine this way, by deciding what something is before having all the facts. I haven’t been in that position, this is true, but I have made Brissim. You figure it out- what I’m saying! And no, I’m not a caterer or some sort of org. or did any help for relatives!
I think there’s a big difference between brissim in the US and in EY. Most of my kids were born in EY and I have never seen anyone taking home food from the bris. We serve fleishigs at our brissim and save the leftovers for Shabbos or for lunches for the next few days. If there’s a lot, we freeze it.
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