Picking a High School for my son

Confusedyid,

I don’t know you or your son, so I can’t give you any specific advice. I will, however, give out some generic advice which I’ve always found to be helpful.

Many people want to get their son into the “best yeshiva.” That, in and of itself, is not a bad thing. Going to the “best yeshiva” may well bring your son (and perhaps, by extension, the rest of the family) certain benefits and advantages.

However, instead of looking for simply the “best yeshiva,” find the best yeshiva *for your son*. Your son is not like anyone else’s son. He has his own strengths and weaknesses. If you put in a yeshiva just because it sounds good but it’s a poor fit for his personality and learning abilities, then you will lose far more than you gain.

If you’re happy with your son’s elementary school, why don’t you speak with your son and his teachers/principals and ask them for recommendations?

The Wolf

One that takes jewish learning and secular subjects very seriously…at least in my case.

confusedyid

Wolf said it very well. It has to be a good fit for your child.

Take into account things like class size and individualized attention, are the Rabbeim known to be open and friendly, do they get a kesher with the boys? What kind of boys go there? Are they cliquey or snobby or more accepting…?

See if you can talk to boys who went to the school recently or are currently there that will give you tons of insights.

Narrow your choices down to 4, and check the academics, speak to parents who now have kids in the schools.

Then go to each of the schools at arrival time, lunch /recess time and dismissal. That will show you the kids (and some of the parents) as they truly are.

Confusedyid

You are most welcome!

Beware of schools that supposedly have a solid secular studies program, but the vast majority of students just “blow it off”.