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  • #591832
    shimmel
    Member

    There are soo many angry people out there , is it only in today’s world or was it always this way? Is it because its a instant society and when things don’t work out people get angry?

    #687341
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Who’s angry?

    The Wolf

    #687342
    Kasha
    Member

    Who’s angry?

    The Wolf

    What is The Wolf angry about?

    There is an anger management thread in the CR that may help.

    #687343
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Who’s angry?

    The Wolf

    What is The Wolf angry about?

    Heh. LOL.

    The Wolf

    #687344

    Its more then the fact that its an instant society. Its a very “me” generation… You know the joke that all the candy/food these days are either me, Li (like bisli) or I. So when things aren’t the way that the big I want them to be… people get angry. When people don’t agree with MY opinion, people get angry. When everything is not approved by ME, people get angry. Get MY (jk:)) point?

    #687345
    Kasha
    Member

    I believe that’s the first time I’ve seen you use the LOL acronym. I’m glad to have calmed you down. 🙂

    #687346
    bpt
    Participant

    I’m only angry when I can’t access the CR!

    #687347
    Kasha
    Member

    BP Totty:

    This might help you (once you regain access):

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/anger-management-group-therapy

    #687348
    philosopher
    Member

    I get angry when people talk to me in a derogatory fashion.

    Kaas is not a new phenomenon. The topic is often mentioned in the Torah.

    Let me know when you want to drop the “aka: clearheaded”

    #687349
    myfriend
    Member

    If you drop the AKA, readers of old posts addressed to clearheaded will be confused who is talking to who.

    Where can a poster change their display name?

    #687350

    ya how do i get a subtitle?!?

    #687351
    philosopher
    Member

    Thanks moderator. I think after using it so much although it annoyed me, I kind of got attached to it. Sort of like a love/hate relationship. Anyway, I think you can drop it now.

    Thanks for the consideration.

    #687352

    nice im lovin the left coast

    #687353
    philosopher
    Member

    If you drop the AKA, readers of old posts addressed to clearheaded will be confused who is talking to who.

    Moderator maybe you can add an humorous subtitle with clearheaded in it? I don’t mind if it pokes fun at me.

    Where can a poster change their display name?

    myfreind, go to http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/wp-login.php

    #687354
    philosopher
    Member

    Fabulous. Couldn’t be better.

    #687355
    artchill
    Participant

    Many people were harmed, slighted, or abused. Some throughout their life, some in school, and some after they were married. Instead of the frum velt standing up in the defense of these truly heartbroken individuals, society stands up for the people who harm and abuse the innocent.

    This makes people V-E-R-Y angry.

    Angry people NEVER forget what was done to them. They often sit and wait for their opportunity and are then very capable of causing untold tzaros for those who put them through their troubles.

    #687356
    myfriend
    Member

    philosopher, Thanks! How’d you find that link?

    #687357
    shimmel
    Member

    Now, how do I get a subtitle?

    #687358
    philosopher
    Member

    myfrien, I played around a bit to try to change my posting name and hit on this site.

    #687359
    shimmel
    Member

    oh my god ! mod!! do u mean moach as in brain?

    #687360
    shimmel
    Member

    Artchill, There are sooo many therapists out there, more than there ever was, and yes they are getting alot of business!! So? Why the angry people!?

    #687361
    shimmel
    Member

    ON a different note i also realized that people who claim to be openminded and accepting are everything BUT that when it comes to people that are frummer or keeping more chumros than them. Just an interesting observation!

    #687362
    philosopher
    Member

    They often sit and wait for their opportunity and are then very capable of causing untold tzaros for those who put them through their troubles.

    I’m sure you were making a joke here.

    #687363
    goody613
    Member

    i want to be the last one to have “member” as a subtitle

    #687364
    Dr. Pepper
    Participant

    artchill-

    Interesting you mention this.

    I was recently having having a discussion with a neighbor regarding the veracity of graphology.

    While I never studied graphology (or had any interest) in it, we had a teacher in high school who claimed he was an expert graphologist. We brought him handwriting samples from guys in other grades (who he had no interaction with) and his diagnostics were very accurate.

    One person he said “had the potential to be a serial murderer”. Some of the characteristics (amongst many) were:

    1. Stuck on an incident in the past,

    2. Never revealed the incident to anyone (letting the anger build up) and

    3. Constantly, but silently, under stress.

    The list continues but I don’t want to get off the main topic.

    The scary thing was- this guy was popular and outgoing, had lots of friends, was good in sports and got good grades. He was every parents’ dream son.

    #687365
    WIY
    Member

    In short:

    People are angry because they have expectations of themselves that they arent meeting. Many people feel like they are living a life devoid of meaning and feel lost and that they arent getting anywhere and that causes a lot of frustration. Sometimes this can be in the subconscious and the person just feels so miserable inside.

    #687366
    Kasha
    Member

    Dr. Pepper – I don’t think that is scary at all. What is scary is that some guy who never met him feels capable of diagnosing a good law abiding citizen as a future serial killer.

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    #687368
    abbazabba123
    Participant

    im da bomb

    #687369
    artchill
    Participant

    Laugh all you want, BUT anger consumes a person. The greater the effect what was done to him/her the longer the feelings will burn inside them. The most outwardly cheerful person could one day do something to another person that is SO, SO, SO out of character that people can’t believe what they just saw/heard. With a little background information, it all comes clear that the person was harboring so much pain and anger inside against the other person.

    Anger management is good to an certain extent. BUT, anger management doesn’t remove the feelings all it does is mask them. If you harmed someone, it’s best to try to make it up to them while you still have a chance. Hurt people don’t forget what was done to them nor the one who did it.

    #687370
    mosherose
    Member

    Kaas is a terible thing. We should all try to be patient when we can.

    #687371
    Dr. Pepper
    Participant

    Kasha-

    “diagnosing a good law abiding citizen as a future serial killer”

    He didn’t diagnose him- read my post again, he said he had the “potential” to become a serial killer.

    Would you diagnose a 6’8″ yeshiva bochur as a future basketball player? Or would you say he has the potential of being a basketball player based on his height.

    Most probably this guy turned out to be a very fine husband, father and law abiding citizen. However, from his handwriting the teacher was able to see that he was-

    1. Very smart,

    2. Very respectful to others,

    3. Very meticulous at planning ahead,

    4. Very careful at covering his tracks,

    5. Stuck in the past on something (possibly abuse),

    6. Very secretive about something and

    7. Full of stress that had to be relieved somehow-

    many of the character traits of a serial killer.

    #687373
    WIY
    Member

    The sifrei Mussar say that the root cause of Kaas is Gaivah so if we worked on Gaivah and our over inflated egos, we wouldn’t have Kaas.

    #687374
    gavra_at_work
    Participant

    Most people seem to be civil. 🙂

    Kaas leads to Avodah Zara, but like all Midos, it has its good points (sometimes you need to vent at something), as per the Gemorah Shabbos 105B.

    EDITED

    #687375
    WolfishMusings
    Participant

    Like almost any other Middah, anger has it’s place when it’s properly used. However, I can’t recall a single time in my lifetime and personal experience when anger by me was justified.*

    The Wolf

    * That’s not to say I’ve never become angry — just that in my personal life I’ve yet to find a time when my anger was truly justified.

    #687376
    Be Happy
    Participant

    I think this a great Moshol:

    There was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a

    bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, to

    hammer a nail in the back fence. The first day the boy had driven

    37 nails into the fence. Then it gradually dwindled down. He

    discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those

    nails into the fence.

    Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all.

    He told his father about it and the father suggested that the

    boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold

    his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able

    to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

    The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He

    said, “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the

    fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in

    anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife

    in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one.

    What do you do with your Anger?

    #687377
    WIY
    Member

    Be Happy:

    Great Moshol. Thanks. The only thing missing in the Moshol is that anger is bad for the person who is angry. It hurts him too not just the one that the anger is taken out on.

    #687378
    shimmel
    Member

    Many People turn away from yiddishkeit because of their anger and hurt, and others are smart enough to go get help.

    I think part of the solution would be if alot more people out there with would be willing to help and mentor young adults. Maybe our upcoming adults will be better able to handle the hardships that the world has to offer.

    #687379

    Wolfishmusings-I learned that every middah has to be used to a certain degree besides for anger. Anger should never ever be used.

    #687380
    goody613
    Member

    but times you r supposed to ACT angry even though your not

    mischiefmaker- isnt it a rambam or something?

    #687381
    artchill
    Participant

    shimmel:

    Working with the ANGRY at-risk population is very trying and demanding. The most influential mentors are those who walked a mile in the shoes of the at-risk teen. They are able to understand a question asked from cynicism vs. from pain. Most people would simply walk away, but onl;y one who has gone through it understands the questions coming from pain.

    As a mentor in Chicago explained it very succinctly, “An at-risk professional is a mechanech, one who is well versed in psychology, and who has gone through the pain, all wrapped in one person. Would you go to a grief counselor who never experienced loss? Only someone who has gone through the pain the teen is going through can give true hadracha”

    Not everyone who has experienced the pain and anger the at-risk teens experience is cut out to VOLUNTEER his/her time. Those who do volunteer deserve all the bracha in the world. Hashem should repay them for their efforts and their wives dedication for allowing late night shifts.

    #687382
    oomis
    Participant

    I loved Be happy’s moshol. Excellent.

    “ON a different note i also realized that people who claim to be openminded and accepting are everything BUT that when it comes to people that are frummer or keeping more chumros than them. Just an interesting observation! “

    That is probably because some of the people who are keeping those chumros, generally tend to think of themselves as frummer (read: religiously better) than the person whom you think is not so openminded. No one likes to be looked down upon. And if you are honest with yourself, you will admit that this is how it sometimes is in the more charedi circles.

    #687383

    I’m not judging anyone cuz I would probably the worst with my temper but I know I’ve learned that it should NEVER be used-i don’t know the source though. It could be a rambam-goody613.

    #687384
    artchill
    Participant

    mischiefmaker:

    Anger is anger and temper is temper. They are not the same thing.

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