11 Responses

1. Those are increases in absolute numbers, not increases in the percentage of couples getting divorced. This may just be an increase in the number of divorces due to population growth, but not an increase in the divorce RATE.

2. From my observations I have seen very often three scenerios leading to divorce in the frum community.

   1. I dont know about in Israel or in the non-Chassidishe communities, but in Chassidishe communities in the US the girls are constantly being mechazek in school and constantly taught the dangers of smartphones and to resist buying them. Meanwhile, the boys and men are not encouraged and educated not to buy those smartphones because of neglect on this topic by roshei yeshivas and magidei shuirim. And so they very often buy these smartphones because supposedly they need it “l”tzoirech parnasah”. The effects on so many of these boys and men who have smartphones, has devastating spiritually. Meanwhile the women and girls do not generally have smartphones. (And btw, these girls and young women work and have businesses too…) This is causing an imbalance in the ruchnius level of spouses that causes many divorces.

   2. Everyone supposedly has some sort of diagnosed disorder these days and every second kid takes psychotic for one reason or another. Parents believe the lie that it “chemically balances the brain”. Meanwhile it often has an everlasting, devastating effect on the brain affecting basic functioning. A big percentage of parents hide it from the other party when it comes to shidduchim but one quickly finds out about a spouse taking mind-altering meds soon after the marriage. And they head straight to the beis din.

   3. Unfortunately many people do not work on their middos and are selfish and lacking empathy and caring. And many parents neglect instilling basic menchlichkeit and good middos in their kids. Years ago people would put up with narcissistic and selfish behavior by their spouces because they felt they have no choice. Todays’ young people do not put up with bad and abusive behavior from their spouses. Which is actually a good thing. No one should have to go through life with a spouse that lacks basic middos. It’s a living nightmare living with such a person.

3. Although it is true the divorce rate is rising – which is very tragic- ,it must be pointed out that these numbers are not necessarily accurate since the population of all these areas increases every year. As the frum world continues to grow בע”ה, there are many more couples getting married every year. In order to properly track the percentages, these factors must be taken into account.

4. I understand the number of divorces grows every year but so does the population and the number of married couples. These stats are pretty meaningless.

5. Before posting an article like this, you should post how many more marriages there were during the same time. I bet there were a 200% increase in marriages which would mean that divorce rate actually fell.

6. It’s the internet

7. Editor, please post your source. Thank you,

8. More likely being caused by too many חומרות בטהרת המשפחה and by Husbands who got obligated in too long stints of time in Gaza.

9. Maybe the wives are getting tired of taking care of the kids , making dinner and supporting the family while the husband sits all day in yeshiva.

10. When Torah is not learned L’maysah, it becomes סם המוות instead of סם חיים.

11. There are different factors that should also be considered
    Beit shemesh along with beitar saw a substantial growth in their population growth. 2) the chashivus of marriage isn’t any more “the thing”. We should be zoche building baiit Neman and overcome challenges of shalom baiit in dignified ways