A major, major problem in chinuch comes from the parents’ need to control their children. If a parent would just model good behavior everything will work out. Ignore everything else. (Of course don’t put stumbling blocks, like unfiltered internet, etc. But on a whole, if we’d just get out of the way, our kids will be awesome!). I really mean this: don’t make your kids daven, learn, etc. they go to yeshiva. Let the Yeshivas deal with all that. At home just model and try to make your relationship with your kids greater and greater. ZERO criticism. No matter what they do. And remember they know exactly how you feel about them. If every parent truly believed that he has the best kids in the world, then we would not have one kid off the derech. (Best kids, doesn’t mean smartest, learns the best, etc. Just the best!!!)
Menu