Reply To: Clarification to mod and DaMoshe

Arso,

“ I know the engaged couple are encouraged to live in different cities, but they so so (the repletion was deliberate) often don’t.”

Those who care, are in touch with a mashpia about their specific situation, and receive personalized guidelines. I know many who do separate to different cities as a matter of course, including my husband and myself when we were engaged. Those who don’t care have bechira chofshis, and we as a community do what we can to live as a dugma chaya and inspire others, wherever they may be at.