I agree with everything you wrote above to be true and honest and directly from the Torah. So will we finally learn to take these laws more serious and stop corrupting ourselves into doing it by making ourselves think that it’s l’toeles-to say bad about this girl in shidduchim, cause saying it will prevent the marriage and prevent the future divorce which I know will happen-when in truth our intentions are completely false and not l’toeles we just sadly let ourselves get corrupted into sinning and it’s very sad causing all of klal yisroel to remain in golus due to the sin of many one person saying bad about another person when it could’ve been completely avoided and helped bring Mashiach come already bkarov.
May we all seriously stop doing this terrible sin immediately so it will make klal yisroel worthy of the coming of Mashiach already bkarov.