Hakatan, how is it more frum not to mention women? One newspaper printed Caroline Glick’s column under the byline C. Glick ( wonder if their Tanachs refer to Devorah as D. and their gemarot refer to Beruria and B).. That is not frum. It is silly and a chillul Hashem as it makes Judaism look ridiculous.
Aseh, actually Jewish men have had to listen to their wives since Hashem told Avraham to listen to Sarah. In some cases, aman who wants to change his trade (e.g. become a tanner) needs his wife’s permission.