Avira,
The gut revulsion to people who are intermarried is simple to understand: if you have two jews who dont keep stuff at least they are jewish and part of our nation, and u can try to convince them to keep more. When one marries outside, now someone is always involved who isnt shayach. Getting to know them socially isnt shayach and it isnt shayach every second of the day. additionally u have the problem of nonjewish children if the mother isnt jewish. You likewise invite the possibility of extended family or nonjewish kids hanging around ours. These are not very fun to deal with and are insanely sensitive issues. I dont blame people for not wanting to get involved. Its tricky. but importantly: That wasnt what we were talking about. What you claimed in the beginning was that intermarriage is somehow indicative of peoples interest in judaism, that if they are reform and intermarried as opposed to reform and not intermarried they have less interest in judaism. My point, and it still stands, is that this isnt true at all. Now u wanna talk about the approach of kiruv organizations as if that changes the original point. it doesnt. That kiruv organizations dont want to make jews frum and pretend they are dead instead is a limitation of kiruv organizations. By your own admission the lubavitcher rebbe will go and bring back jews where nobody else will! Such gadolei torah say they are dead and the lubavitcher rebbe is making baal teshuvas out of them.
-I decided on my own i wanted to be religious, dont assume things about my history.
– when a ship is changing direction it still travels the same way as its turning around. We are slowly seeing the fruits of what was laid down.
-Again i dont agree with your measures of success, i think if some people do zero mitzvos and do 1 because of chabad and others become active members of chabad minyanim etc even if not frum they have made their connection stronger or increased that persons connection to judaism. something like tefillin which gives a yid olam haba is not just one mitzvah either and is a massive deal. however u calculate i think it is a massive net positive for jews overall.
-“The number of Orthodox jews vs. non frum has risen precipitously since his petirah”
considering the argument is that he is moshiach still, this is perfectly consistent.
-idk why ur comparing frum peoples mitzvos to nonfrum. The point is the people that moshiach needs to strengthen in observance, when introduced to chabad kiruv efforts, bear an increase in mitzah observance.