ujm,
“”There’s an old concept of a parent telling a child “no”.”
I don’t think this is the problem @fakenews described. Kids are kids. If you occasionally let them get treats from an ice cream truck, they will ask or clamor every time they hear the music. So the issue is not with saying no, but with feeling burdened by having to repeatedly say no due to external stimuli. The solution (other than rolling burning tires onto your street to keep the trucks out), simply put but harder to implement, is to find a way to manage their expectations. Some of the respondents here had some good ideas.