Neville, it’s not without precedent. Most(if not all) poskim allow abortion if a mother is suicidal, due to either being a victim or the like.
No one’s saying to embrace gender nonsense or to teach people that it’s ok “if you really really want it and if it’s too difficult for you not to,” which is the MO line of apikorsus.
What we’re saying is that if a person comes to a rov and says that they will kill themselves if they are permitted to go after their fantasies, we say that it’s pikuach nefesh and we allow most things that they want to do.
It’s not something to celebrate, it’s not a legitimate identity, it’s none of those things.
The same thing is told to drug addicts who might overdose, that they can call people on shabbos. Even though the normal reaction is – hey, just don’t take the drugs.
Rabbonim understand people. And they’re not just blindly listening to the gender bender “experts” who know less about physiology than a 4 year old who knows that boys and girls are different.
What they’re doing is saving lives. Pikuach nefesh is docheh everything except the 3 chamuros.
Now it could be argued that even for pikuach nefesh we won’t allow a community wide pirtzah, as in the case of ma’achurei hageder in the gemara, where we said it was better for the man who was obsessed with a girl to die rather than merely shmooze with her from across a fence(there are two shitos about that gemara; either abizrayhu is yehereg velo yaavor, or what I said above, that it’s a migdar milsa that such things shouldn’t becomr normalized)
Actually, according to those who hold that abizrayhu is yehereg velo yaavor…lo yilbash is an abizrayhu. However, even according to that opinion, the patient is not dressing that way in order to mix in, which is why some poskim allow it for Purim etc…we don’t follow those poskim regarding Purim, but there were communities that did, so that’s enough for our inyan which involves pikuach nefesh.
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